2006-06-29 18:54:09 · 19 answers · asked by tiffeny s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-06-29 19:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by arajaajmali 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you go beyond anger and begin hitting someone, it can only get worse from there. I'm telling you because i lived it, and either women, or men, abuse is NEVER an option to stgay with someone.
You lose your self respect, your self esteem, and I know that keeping a family together is important, but did you child witness the slap? how much more can you handle? The events that will lead to more than just a slap are around the corner.
When someone hits, you, they have no respect for themselves, no respect for you, and trust me,if they got away with it the first time, they will ABSOLUTELY do it again, without a doubt. If this guy doesn't think he has a problem with anger, he will hit you again.
You might thinkabout financial reasons, but trust me, there are plenty of places that will help you move on. Another thing, do you love him after this? doesn't it enrage you that he did this, and you can hit back because you know you'll get it worse?
It's a no win situation, and once your child witnessses violence in the home, the damage will be much worse, and a few bruises to you are not worth your child winessing that, it's a horrible experience and tremendous feeling of helplessness for little young ones.
Get yourself some couseling, even if you don't make a decision to leave, just talk to someone, for your the love you have for your baby.
2006-06-30 02:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by grldragon101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child should not come into play when it comes to any kind of violence. When a BOY hits you that is one too many. Only a man will treat you with respect. All it takes is that one time to start you down that road. Don't be sucked into that just because you have a child with him. Children are worse off if you stay in a relationship that is abusive because it wil either teach them to be the abuser or to be abused. Men will never slap you no matter how long you have been together. Remember these kinds of guys like to test the waters. This time it may have been a slap but what happen when it becomes something else? Will you still be trying to convince yourself to stay for your child or for however long you are together? It is not worth it. Be strong and he won't have to conquer over you.
Someone who had to grow up with that..crap!
2006-06-30 02:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by linaka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you do in your relationship with the baby's father should be "for the child" - the relationship you have with the baby's father is between you and him. There's no baby anywhere that wants to see mama slapped...
If this is the first event - meaning the first time he's ever slapped you...and your arguments are seldom heated...i would give him a second chance. People make mistakes ... I'd strongly suggest an anger management class or a couples communication seminar...
However, if you were afraid...if you felt like you were in serious trouble...if he left a bruised mark...if this is a common occurence - where you argue loudly...
Then I would say...thats what you've been doing for three years is trying to make it right... and it isn't working.
2006-06-30 02:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should you work on it? Work on what, getting his slap perfected? No, dear, if you put up with it once, he will think you will put up with it twice. Go now. Take your child, and show your child a good example of womanhood and strength. Years from now, your child will turn to you and ask why he does not have a father, and you can look at him with dignity in your eyes and tell him the truth - that not you or any woman or Earth deserves to tolerate the abuse of a man.
How many women out there would love to be in your position again - To walk out with their heads held high after the first (and LAST!) assault? This is your moment now to choose your destiny. Choose wisely.
2006-06-30 02:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_leaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you are going to anyways, so why even ask us? My answer is no...not for the child and not for you...If you stay, you are teaching the child it's ok to hit a woman and he will probably do it again. But you have already made up your mind so why are you even here...
I just am upset that the one person answered "yes, for the child" cuz that's a bunch of crap...if you have a son, that's telling the son...it's ok to hit on women from time to time and if it's a girl, it's telling a girl that if you get out of hand, it's ok for the man to hit you. Plus kids aren't stupid, they know what's going on, whether you want to believe it or not.
So no, not for the child at all...If you stay, that's on you...That's on your shoulders and whatever that child grows up to be...whether it's a woman beater or a woman who gets beat by her man...that's gonna be on you and him.
2006-06-30 02:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of you do not stay in the relationship for the children it just makes them miserable watching you fight...it also depends why you were slapped what did you do or was he just so pissed that he just did it and if you think that he is going to start hitting you you should leave but if you two can work it out and it would never happen again work on it
2006-06-30 02:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by manita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't work nothing out with him because, if he loves you he wouldn't raise a hand at you and then put it to your face... These are the reasons what I think you shouldn't work nothing out with him... But for the sake of the child I think you should separate for a couple of weeks and then work things out from there... If he loves you he would promise to change him ways... I think you should work it out because, of your child that is involved in this situation.. I hope this advice helps you some what!!! BEST WISHES
2006-06-30 02:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once they start hitting, it gets worse. If he ever hits you again...get out! You don't want your child to think that's the way to deal with women or that's how they should be treated. You won't be doing your child any favors. Been there, done that. Good luck.
2006-06-30 02:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by 4kidsmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is the first time in your relationship that things have gotten physical then "yes" work on it. Just make it very clear that it is the first and only time that you will make an effort and only if he has shown you that he is truly sorry. The same thing happened to me early in my marriage and we worked on it and I am happy to say that we have been happily married for eighteen years now.
2006-06-30 02:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by Marty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes for the child
2006-06-30 01:57:24 · answer #11 · answered by Manda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋