Why iz it wrong????

Question

Y iz it so wrong to like ur bes friends ex if he doesnt like her anymore an she SUPPOSEDLY hates him. I mean i lost a friend b/c her friend tol her that i waz all up on this guy while she waz on a trip. She iz my bes friend an she iz not talkin to me. Wat am i posed ta do wen she waz da one dat i went to fa errythin now im goin thru a bunch of **** an no one's there fa me. I mean there are ppl there fa me but not like her. Im so confused can someone help me?

an fyi i waznt on him he waz on me but i guess her friend only saw wat she wanted to see becuz i waz alwayz pushin him off i like him but not so much as to ruin my relationship wit a great friend jus to have sumbody's leftova's, plus he iz like a brother to me

I didnt say i wanted to date him i jus said i liked him az a brother but she thinks its more

Dat Chick Fly i got u. I dont even hang wit a lot of girls i got maybe 3 friends das girls an da res boys well now 2 cuz my friend aint talkin to me. But at first she aint hate him they jus wasnt talkin den dey waz friends now she hate him cuz of wat she HEARD bout me an him. I aint got time fa b/s cuz its annoyin if she wanna beef ova a dude den so b it cuz i alredy beat dis girls *** cuz she wanted ta jump stupid ova her dude dat wanted ta get wit me an i waz ****** wit him befo she even came ta our skool an she wanna get mad at me cuz das my ***** GIRLS I TELL U

Answer 1

see.... this is what i mean.... females b straight up ignorant....first of all..... if yall super kewl like that.... she wouldnt let somthin silly like a dude come between tha two of you.......and if she believed what her friend told her before askin you....then that was wrong to..... if thaz yo best friend yall gotta b able to trust each otha a lil more than that..... and now she wanna b mad cuz her ex tried to check up on it?.....lets get motivated......dudes iz dogs....he probably was feelin u tha whole time he went with her....then on tha other hand.....it does depend on how deep of a relationship they had....like if they was lik madd in love...then u should get over ur feelins for him for the sake of u and yo friends relationship.......but if they was on sum elementary typr relationship (im gonna go with u cuz ur cute) AND she hates him now.....then she shouldnt be madd......but chicks iz funny....thats why i cant hang wit em...... and u gon have 2 learn that yo best friend mite b yo worst enemy

Answer 2

In high school 3 of us girls were best friends, 10 years later, 2 of us are married and one in a long term relationship still. A guy came between my best friends and it took me down with everything else. A guy was friends with friend B and was set up by friend B on a blind date with friend L, or at least that is what was supposed to happen. He and friend L hit it off wonderfully and friend B got very jealous making wild accusations about both the friend and the guy. This lasted 3 years, friend L missed my wedding because friend B was there with her now longterm boyfriend. Everyone was too uncomfortable to just get over it no matter how many times I stuck them in the same room. It has now been 4 1/2 years and they are barely talking, friend L wants everything to go back the way it was, and I admit I pretty much feel the same, while friend B still holds a grudge just not as bad anymore but still won't own up to it. They stuck me in the middle and made me take sides. While trying to stay neutral since I didn't know everything that was going on I still got sucked in and put on a side so I lost a friend for 3 years. We finally got back together just after I got married and I went to her place for the first time nearly ready to give birth to my son a few months after that. I missed out on a lot and she missed out on even more, she missed my wedding and we had been best friends since we met in grade 6 in 92'. We had a lot of talking that we had to do before we got to that point though and I am going to stick them in my bathroom to clean it when we move in a few weeks, so they better get some talking done then or this may never end.
If you like the guy, try talking to your friend and tell her what really happened while she was on the trip, tell her how you feel about the guy and get everything out in the open, it may clear some things up. her feelings are hurt and it sounds like she still has feelings for this guy as well. Maybe it is best if neither of you have him in the end.

Good luck though. Talking helps most situations.

Answer 3

I am in the same kind of situation. Except that I'm that friend. I know it may be wrong, but I am so frustrated right now with one of my best friends, for dating an "ex." I hate him, why shouldn't she? I feel like she should share my views and hate him too, and not see anything good in him. Why does she even like him? Why would she WANT to date him after what he did to me, and how he treated me? There was obviously something wrong with him, or I would've still been with him, you know? And now SHE'S with him. I want her to know how bad he'll hurt her too, because she learned from MY experience- I don't want her to have to learn it for herself. Plus, it's almost like my "ex" and I are enemies, and she, being one of my best friends, should take my side. Not his. It hurts because it really feels like she doesn't understand me or even believe me, and that she doesn't care. That she cares more for a short fling (because I KNOW it WILL BE short...), than for a long-lasting friendship. I agree that boys come and go, but friends are forever. It's hard to let little things like this get in the way of that great friendship. So don't let them get in the way in the first place.

Answer 4

A real friend just does not do that. it is the unwritten law of friendship...never get with your friends ex, even with her permission.

If she is really your best friend go to her and tell her you are sorry a million times over and promise you will never do anything like that again.

even if she said she hates him she probably still had feeling for him and it was also a stab in the back especially if he dumped her. get with the program girl.

my friend and I have been best friends for over 20 years and we have never once dated the same guy. we will never cross that line.

Answer 5

First off, you need to learn proper English, maybe that's why she's mad at you.

Second, it's wrong because this guy must have done something wrong for them to have broken up, so it's wrong that you would want to get close to a guy that did your best friend wrong.

Answer 6

It's a girl friend thing ... she may think that you had the hots for him when they were together, and just didn't want to say anything. It's a touchy situation that you should avoid in the future. We women are complicated creatures :)

Answer 7

it sounds like what happened to one friend of mine just a little different . i would take to my friend about it a friend is more important than a guy. guys come and go but good friends are forever.(a little bit kiddish but true)

Answer 8

if your her "best friend" wouldn't she take that kinda offensive im just wondering usually i'd think they'd get pissed