After finding out his cell phone records and the after hours calls back and forth between them I observed the behaviour between them. He admits he let it get out of hand and promised to transfer her to another position. Now a year later she is still there and I am not allowed to come to his work place without his permission. Everything is so secretive. I have become the outsider. Twenty five years of marriage and she has been married thirty four. He directed her to call me and tell me there was nothing between them but when I asked her were they ever intimate she did not answer. Then lied to him and said I didn't give her time to answer. He believed her.
2006-06-29 18:13:20 · 10 answers · asked by weve1151 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He admits it got out of hand and now he promise you that she will be transfer. Now one year later she still there and you not allow to come to his work without his permission??????? oh my god, Jack ***, he cheating on you and he made her to call you and she didn't even answer your question..... she didn't want to answer it and she might lose her job and I believed that he cheating on you ...... That not marriage and He admit got out of hand now still doing it. stuipd man...... Get lawyer and divorce and rightnow before it getting worst.
2006-07-10 01:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where there's smoke, there's fire hon. Here's the kicker, you are his wife, YOU are supposed to be his best friend...his secretary is supposed to be his co-worker. Unfortunately this happens a lot as they are together for 8+ hours a day. You know, they can call a pile of crap a bouquet of roses...but the fact remains it is still a pile of crap and it sure doesn't smell like roses!! Oh yeah, they're having an affair!
2006-06-30 08:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are his wife and you are letting him treat you like an unwanted step child. there are several things you could do, show up at work anyway with a nice lunch and see whats going on. or just tell him she goes or you go and you have a week to get it done, then start packing. this is really a terrible situation and i'm sorry for you but you have to start sticking up for yourself. either that or find a 'friend' of your own and see how he likes it, sometimes a taste of their own medicine is the best thing that can happen to them.
2006-06-30 01:34:47 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLLLLLLLL YES...... i wouldn't be putting up with that @ all. He has admitted to it getting out of hand once. Don't let this go on any longer. If he respects you he would of done this already. Stop being a walk over with this and tell him to get cracking NOW!
2006-06-30 01:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by motherof3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I m sorry to tell you but this doesn't sound to good.scence he took her word over yours after all those years being married , I would expect him to have her transfer because your marriage is at stake,,good luck
2006-06-30 01:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you might need to get ready not to be married anymore. sounds like him and secretary have had their thing too long.
he has lied to you about her repeatedly and still has not gotten another secretary.
that should tell you something right now
2006-07-09 13:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best friends my ***.....men and women cannot be friends!!!!!even if they have not been intimate.....they sound like they are in love.....which one is worse? Don't throw your marriage away yet......find out if he still loves you.....he needs to make up his mind.....can you forgive him?......lots of questions..... : (
2006-06-30 01:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by the_knower_of_all_knowledge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is trouble right there in river city and I do not mean pool
2006-07-08 15:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by usmchawkeye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you're taken care of, financially and divorce his ****. he's cheating. no if and's or buts. he's lying and you can't trust him. sorry you're going through this :(
2006-06-30 01:17:05 · answer #9 · answered by marcilee1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should, but it ain't going to happen.
2006-06-30 01:17:45 · answer #10 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋