I have been with my fiance for a little over 2 years. We have a 5 month old baby together, and we want to get married. (We were already planning to get married before I became pregnant.) I am having some fears and wondering if I need to get a prenup. I own a house (in my name only). My fiance, our baby, and I live there together, and my fiance helps with the payments. I am afraid that when we get married, his ex can get more child support out of my fiance because our salaries will be combined. (I make a higher salary than he does, and she knows this.) I'm also afraid that I will acquire my fiance's debt. Does anyone know from experience if that would happen? I love him very much and do want to marry him, but it's complicated and scary. I want to be protected, and I especially want our baby to be protected. Ugh! I'm going to have to get a lawyer, aren't I?
2006-06-29 17:27:51 · 16 answers · asked by stevie ann 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES! Get a lawyer, and probably a prenupt.
In most states, only the parents income is considered for child support, not that of a new spouse.
However, you could very well end up with some of his debts and his financial issues coming on you, and you may want to protect your house from his ex.
Consult a lawyer, and go from there.
Good luck!
2006-06-29 17:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I heard that prenups cost several thousand dollars. I think it's around 5 - 10k depending on how complicated it gets.
But in your case it is probably worth it, because otherwise your finances could end up being threatened. Buying a house on your own is an accomplishment worth protecting.
I personally think everyone over a certain age, who has anything to lose, should get a prenup. It's only fair. Good luck talking to the lawyer, I'm sure he can clear a lot of things up.
2006-06-29 17:35:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know you or your real situation, but from the way your question read, she's already spending the alimony checks. I bet she wants to not only quit her job as soon as you get married but also start having babies. Or should I say little child support checks. Rethink this marriage. You are not confidant enough in it to last, if you were then you wouldn't have gotten the prenup written up in the first place. Go with those feelings and move on.
2016-03-26 22:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends where you live. If you marry him prior to his debt being paid off you will assume it as a spouse. And yes, his ex could hit him up for more support. I don't know much about pre nups but if it will protect your money do it. Anyway, with a prenup you will need a shark, I mean lawyer, to draw it up and work out the details.
2006-06-29 17:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually prenups are contracts drawn up for your protection when the mairage fails, i don't think a prenup would protect you from his debt or child support, but then again i think that his ex can't ask for more child support just because he marries you, i seriously doubt that she can go after you for extra child support, check with a lawyer on this but a prenup won't protect you in this scenario
2006-06-29 17:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the way I see it is when you marry, you become a partnership and a team - if this means taking on your husbands debt or paying child support for his kids - that's what marriage means.
If you feel the need for a pre nup....., well I don't doubt you love your man, but you must have some gnawing doubts
2006-06-29 17:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are already having doubts, get a prenup, especially if your fiance does not have anything against it.
2006-06-29 18:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by xena790 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, get a prenup!! And a lawyer!! Divorce rates are too high to take any chances...do it for your baby girl!! She is too precious to make her suffer!!
2006-06-29 17:30:34 · answer #8 · answered by MNM0103 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all that going on, I'd say get the prenup. That ensures that his debt won't become yours and that his child support won't become yours either.
2006-06-29 17:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by heather47374 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to common law child support website for free get some information before you do anything don't regret your choice years later get the fact's!
2006-06-29 17:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋