i have been cheated on twice with two different men! my girl friends always say that straight men are worse but i have never known a straight man that cheated on a girl! is it just me? am i doing something that lets them think its ok to cheat on me? i just dont know what to do anymore! i think im just going to give up on men all together!!!
2006-06-29 17:23:46 · 20 answers · asked by kaikai 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
ummm..............billy joel whatever!?!?! you dont make sense!!!!!
2006-06-29 18:10:38 · update #1
and thanks quiqui_84, its not something medicine can cure
2006-06-29 18:11:27 · update #2
oh and shoneylee!!!! i lover you!!! HEHE
2006-06-29 18:16:17 · update #3
Ok, so in my own opinion... gay or straight... a man who is not ready for a commitment... is going to cheat. The one thing you need to do is make sure your relationship with that person is not a one way relationship. Be sure the person you are with is as serious about you as you are about them. Set the rules right away... If its okay to see others, then leave it open and don't get upset when you find out, or better yet... share... (if thats what youre into) but if you're going to be serious... make sure you understand that a serious relationship takes serious time, patience, and commitment... between both parties. It can't happen over night. Trust is something earned over time... Have you ever trusted anyone right away???
2006-06-29 18:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by Myzz Undastood 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Maybe this is just a numbers game.
Let's assume everyone cheats evenly.
So if two gay guys were going out and one of them cheated on the other, it would be a gay guy cheating
But if it was a straight couple and one of them cheated on the other, it's only a 50% chance that it's the straight man cheating.
Which means that for every time a gay couple cheats, it's always a gay guy, but with straight people, it's not always a straight guy doing the cheating. Of course, this is all assuming everyone cheats equally, regardless of sex and sexual orientation
It could also be the way you're behaving. Men have strong sex drives and if perhaps, he felt you weren't satisfying his sexual needs well enough, he could meet another horny gay guy who wanted sex and it would be a much greater temptation since both the cheater and the person he'd cheat with would both have high sex drives, which means less thinking with the heart, and more thinking with the penis.
Or, this could all be just heartbreak and you blaming it on a stereotype that gay guy cheat a lot. You just need to keep trying, and one day you will find Mr. Right.
2006-06-29 17:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by RobertStrong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general, men (even gay ones) are prone to "spread their seed" even in commited relationships. It's biology. It doesn't mean that monogamy is impossible. You've been monogamous, haven't you? Haven't you??? =)
It's not you. It's not any signal or anything you do or don't do. Men would f**k mud if they thought they could get away with it.
When we were hidden from the world and regarded as "sexual outlaws," our community decided it would make its own rules, which very often included "the talk." In this case, it was about what the "rules" were in a relationship regarding monogamy (if it was okay if it wasn't in the same zip code, or not with mutual friends, or whatever). Then heterosexuals started aping us, just like most fashion trends.
There was quite a movement toward monogamy in the 1980s and early 90s -- George Michael even did a video about it. But now, with safer sex being de rigeur, and a decline in AIDS diagnoses among gay men, men are wanting to explore again, particularly those who grew up without exploring so much.
I know plenty of straight guys who have had extramarital or extra-relationship sex -- they just tend to be quieter about it. Gay men will generally tell youl. Gay communities tend to be smaller, as well, so word gets around pretty easily.
If you want to be in a relationship, don't give up. Be upfront with anyone you think is a potential life partner -- tell them you expect your relationship to be exclusive and monogamous, that you will live that way and you want to keep your love special. If they don't think they can live up to that, then you two don't belong together.
If you think you can be happy without a relationship, give it a try.
2006-06-29 17:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by blueowlboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating has absolutely nothing to do with being gay or straight. People cheat for their own selfish reasons. I've been cheated on and most of my friends have as well and they were all in relationships with straight men. I don't think that you should even attempt to blame yourself for choices that another person makes when they decide to cheat. One thing that you do have control over is the men that you choose for yourself. If this is a reoccurring problem then maybe you should step back and look at the choices that you are making in men. I suggest alone time to really get to know yourself and find out what things are really important to you when it comes to sharing your life with someone. I takes time to know yourself and if you don't you cant choose someone that's perfect for you if you don't know you.
2006-06-29 17:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by prettylady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men cheat period. The hetero's who are so fond of protecting the "sanctity of marriage" have a 52% divorce rate. What percentage of that do you think is owed to infidelity? Then we have the 48% who remain..... do you think all those guys are faithful? Ha! I don't doubt that there are some good guys out there with integrity and honesty but but across the board, gay or straight there are gonna be cheaters. Maybe you should stop blaming them and start looking at the choices youre making in your guys.
2006-06-29 17:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by LR C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was cheated on by my lover of 4 years when it happened I threw him out and took a year off to get to know myself.I dated a few guys when I was ready not looking to get into a relationship right away and then I met a guy who is wonderful and we have been together going on three years and have both been monogamous.So just dont lose hope.The right man is out there.
2006-07-01 08:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by wicked'83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the past i had always thought that gay men tend to be more promiscuous than straight men. that idea is starting to be equal towards straight men too. when it comes to promiscouity, gay men are no better than straights when it comes to cheating. you have gay men out there who are only chasing after ***** and you have another half who want to settle for a relationship. it seems to me like you hooked up with the wrong guys.
do you ever ask any guys what do they look for in a partner? if anything better, do you ask anybody who is friends with that individual if he is the "whore" type? guys who cheat on you based on any sex you perform in bed or looks is only wasting your time. just keep talking to other guys who are your potential match and don't ever hesitate hooking up. girls are great to hang out with. if they know you're having trouble hooking up, they can pick up a guy for you.
but don't ever give up though! we've been there at least once in our lives. continue to be outgoing and a guy will soon follow. good luck!
2006-06-30 06:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by javalava85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think no you are responsible of that. ... they cheat because they are immature and are not willing to have a serious relationship. they are exactly as straight men with the only difference that they like people with the same gender.
straight and gays men cheat in the same way but it also depends in every man. some of people are obvious, some don't .
don't give up on men .. you will find someone who loves you in he way you want.
2006-06-29 17:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by Fatima 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think gay guys do cheat more, but they definitely have more opps than straight men. Straight men don't get hit on over and over again in one night by different people they think are hot not to mention their friends when they're toey. It can be hard (scuse the pun) to resist esp. when you've had a few beers.
2006-06-30 03:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by trash_pony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Str8 men cheat alot 2, once a cheater always a cheater. I have been cheated on alot 2, by a gurl. Hmm wonder why, lol. Naw I cheated right back with another chick and 3 weeks ago I tryed to take out her best fren (tip to all gay and str8, DON'T TAKE OUT BEST FREN). Gets you in really bad trouble, lol. For us when I first cheated on her, i found out she cheated with 3 other guys. I went out cheated once (which is still bad), but it tested our relationship and we worked it out. She did it again, and again, so now we are just frens.
2006-06-29 22:15:39 · answer #10 · answered by native_guy_2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋