my parents are way too protective what do i do???

Question

hi im 15 years old and my parents are way to protective everytime i have asked to do something the answer is NO i am the only one of my friends that is never at any of the parties all the parties have parental supervision i always do my chores so i dont see a problem!!!! and its not so much my mom as my dad my mom is always telling my dad to let me go but he never does!! im not even aloud to just spend the night at a friends house!! so this week my cousin invited me to spend the night, and its my dads sister!!! and he still said no i have tried to talk to him about it but its no use i have no social life outside of school and now that school is over i dont see any of my friends and they arent even aloud to come over to my house because my dad likes to go to bed early and sais he doesnt want me and my friends keeping him up!!! i dont know what to do please help me!!!!

Answer 1

at 15 unfortunately and fortunately parents have the household control. it's for your own good, plus if they know that they can trust you they'll come around eventually

Answer 2

Sometimes, in an effort to stop bad things from ever happening, a parent can get a bit over the top with stopping EVERYTHING! This is not malicious intent: it's actually a desire to ensure your well being, and/or safety! So, it needs a bit of help here! I think you should sit down with mum and dad, and have a time to have your say sort of thing. And you have to realize something too: just because 'everybody else is doing it' doesn't necessarily make it an OK thing. A parent is responsible to ensure your well being, and sometimes it's hard to make a decision if you are not certain. So, these things have to be ironed out, and decisions taken in favor of the best possible thing to do. You are 15, and I know that seems like a vast age for making decisions concerning your own life: but believe me, it's too soon in fact. Let your parents be some guiding force in your life, until you are at least 18. But, having said that, perhaps your dad will be more comfortable with allowing change into the picture if you can find a way to reassure him about what it is you are asking. Either way, I do wish you and your family the best, and hope that you can find a half-way point that can be agreed upon. OK.

Answer 3

My parents were the same way. I am 29 now and looking back they did me a favor. The kids that partied then are still partying now and have nothing to show for it. I own a home and have alot to show for being responsible. Now, at my age, when I see some of my old classmates, they love to party, but are lonely and unhappy. Nothing worse that feeling sorry for that person who still acts the same as they did in highschool! I agree with the philosiphy that most people need to experience something for themselves before they can say it's not for them - that's exactly what your parents are doing for you. Don't worry, there will be plenty of time later for you to party and spend the night whenever you want after you turn 18. Then you will probably see for yourself that you weren't really missing out on much. Get into sports or something constructive for social time. No one ever accomplished anything amazing or contributed to humanity while at a party or under the influence (not that I have ever heard). You do seem very intelligent, so maybe you can reason with your parents logically for a few of the events. But just wait, I know it seems like forever, the time will fly by. Your parents care more about you than anything in the world. As a new mother, I now understand the feelings that my parents had. I want to protect my child from everything.

Answer 4

Hi I am a parent of two and the reason why your parents are so protective is because there cant bare the thought of any thing ever happening to you. You will understand why when you get older and have kids. Its a hard world filled with lots of things that can hurt you. Maybe try to get your parents and your friends parents to know each other a little better so they can form a trust between them. Your parents love you very much. even if it seems there being over protective there looking out for your best interest and they dont want to see you hurt. Its a messed up world and keep in mind you arent the only one who gets scared at times but your parents do to.

Answer 5

Your only 15 and while that seems old to you and you may think your mature, it's not and your not. Teenagers have to deal with peer pressure and just other scumbags out there that want to hurt or take advantage of you. And while you may think you can handle yourself, well, maybe you can. But, probably you can't. And is it worth getting killed, pregnant, in trouble...etc. for looking "cool" to your friends. Your pappy is just scared of loosing you to the crazy and cruel world that awaits you. You'll be old enough to make your own decisions sooner than you think and hopefully the lessons of being carefull in the REAL world you learn from your Dad will stick with you. When or If you have kids you will understand the love a parent has for its children. For example, if you just got a cute little puppy, would you let it walk around the streets? No, there is so much that could harm it. You have to protect it as long as you can.

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Answer 6

I've had that same problem in fact, I'm still having that problem. The thing is parents are overprotective because they genuinely care about your well-being. They don't want you to get in any kind of trouble, it's not that they don't trust you, they don't trust the people out there. You're still fairly young and have a lot to learn about this world and people in general. I would suggest that you take your time don't be in a rush to grow up. Continue to obey your parents don't go behind their back and do what you know you shouldn't because that will only make it worse by giving them a reason not to trust you. Talk to your parents and get them to loosen up a bit and allow you to have your fun. Make sure you think thoroughly about how you should approach them. Be honest, and provide them with solid reasons regarding safety when you go out, contact information on how they can make sure you are where you say you are, and with whom. Remind them that you're a good girl, you take care of your responsibilities like you should so you deserve a break every now and then...I know it might seem extensive but it worked for me.

Answer 7

well what can i say, i´m a 25 years old male, and curiously i had the same problem whit my mom when i was 15, she always overprotect to me, i think this is some kind of "Machismo" that only can be cured till the day of your wedding, when your parents have all the knowledge about your mate. i know this is a bad season, you are in the limit between want to do many things but you are still a teenager that don't have plain control of your life, be patient, your parents want to keep you safe, safe from alcohol or drugs, is easy to get involved in some bad habits when we are Young, i´m telling you this coz that was the way it happened to me, i got alcohol too early and it is something that caused to me many troubles in my life, not only familiar, but professional life. i´m not saying you will become drunk, but no one knows, in a extreme case you need a extreme solution, get a school far away, you can study, have friends and learn to manage your TOTALLY FREEDOM.

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Answer 8

If your on the internet at 12:30am and their not monitoring you, they can't be that protective..am I missing something? Actually my parents were the same way at your age. My mom was always at work so I was always by myself and no one was allowed in the house. It's probably one of the hardest times I ever had to go through in my life. It's very lonely. 15 is just a hard age. It will change when your 16 though. They may need to adjust to the fact that your not a little baby anymore. It will change..you'll have good times too..don't be in so much of a rush...

Answer 9

ugh that sucks. I'm an only child, so my parents are WAY over protective. I'm not allowed to spend the night at one of my friends house, but i am allowed to go to the parties. Talk to your parents and see why they are like this. Maybe the reason is deeper that you would imagine. Be calm and mature about it. sit them down and be like 'I've always done my chores, and I've always listened to you and been very respectful. Can you please tell me why you don't trust me?'
Always bring it back to trust. My parents say that they trust me, they don't trust the other people.
If nothing works, wait about a year or so and see if any changes were made.
Good Luck!!!

Answer 10

Have you tried talking to him and telling him how you feel? Tell him to give you a chance. Have you ever given him a reason not to trust you? If so you need to earn that trust back. Ask him if he can just try to ease up. I do not understand some parents myself and i am one, mine are still under 5 though but i know he is prob just scared of you getting preg., into drugs. etc. because so many kids are now days. does he like you friends. Tell him he can call and talk to your friends parents and maybe that will make a difference. I know how you feel i could not date until i was 16. He loves you and wants to protect you, but being honest with him might make him ease up a little. Good luck!!! Make sure you so respect for him and not have attitude. Talk to him like an adult and maybe he will start treating you like one.

Answer 11

Hunny, you are 15 years old. Your parents get to make the rules. My best advice would be to talk with your father and ask him if there is anything you can do to prove that you are trustworthy enough to have a little more freedom. Try to work something out with him. Unfortunately, some us of are stuck with strict parents and we have to deal with that until we are 18. I know that right now, it feels like your life is over, but its not. Take the time to concentrate on school and figuring out what you want to do with the rest of your life.