Whats wrong with me?

Question

No matter how many times I change for a girl, I still cant have a relationship over a month

Answer 1

The problem is laid out in your question. Why are you changing for these girls? That'd the entire reason your relationships fail.

Answer 2

Don't change. Definitely do not change. Just be yourself. Who cares if they don't like you the way you are. Then they're obviously not worth being with. Everyone thinks that they should only have to be in a couple relationships and the one will just be there. You have to work with stuff and you have to go through a lot of girls. Don't worry, you'll find someone that's right for you. :)

Answer 3

You are dating the wrong type of girl. In a relartionship couples must make comprimises all the time. One should never have to change for the other, yet learn what bothers them and make an effort to not do those things that put a stress on the relationship.

I am a total rebel with tattoos, body piercing, bushy goatee, and even the spikey hair. My wife is a business women. She is in senior management at one of the worlds largest companies. She has no tattoos and just her ears are pierced.

We are totaly different in styles and personalities, yet we love one another very much. We did not change ourselves, rather adjusted to one another.

If someone is trying to change you, then they exspect you to be their puppet and their slave.

You will find someone who will let you be you.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Stop changing so much your only human you will NEVER be perfect; its ok to want a lasting relationship with somebody; maybe your not looking in the right places for the girl. You need someone who understands you and accepts you, and you need to treat that girl the same way with understanding and acceptance, And remember she is human and will NEVER be perfect either. Everybody has flaws no matter who they are. Who knows the one girl your searching for could be someone you know or have never noticed, present and future. Bye

Answer 5

Maybe you are subconsciously doing something to avoid a real relationship to avoid really falling in love because you do not want to get hurt. It sounds really stupid but a lot of people do it and don't even know. Make an effort in your next relationship to have an honest, open way of communicating with her and maybe you can learn to identify where it goes wrong. Then do the exact opposite of what you have done in the past. I hope it helps, and good luck on your next relationship.

Answer 6

you shouldnt have to change for a girl, a girl should accept you as you are, you keep changing them because you havent found the right one who accepts you for you yet, just try to get to know a girl first and ask her what it is that she looks for in a mate that will give you a clue to let you know if you fit her criterior and you should also ask if she thinks that you may be a potential mate for her and if she likes all your personality traits, if she mentions something she doesnt like, then most likely she may try to make you change it if you enter a relationship with her, so knowing this it would be best to put yourself back out there and look for another girl who you can get to know that you would like to be a potential mate.....

Answer 7

Stop changing yourself to please others. Just be yourself and play it cool. Also, don't rush anything. Let the person that you are be seen and heard. The exterior might be attractive at first glance but ultimately, it's the personality that us women really dig and stick around for. I think you need to take a break from dating for a bit and get yourself together; reconnect with the person inside, then take a chance at the dating thing again...Good luck!

Answer 8

you just said it. you don't need to change for a girl. if a girl makes you feel like she doesn't like you as the person you are, then she's not worth your time, much less changing yourself for her. when a girl thinks that she has changed you, she knows she now has control and then she thinks you're weak. it's not fair, i know, but it's true. don't change for anybody. be the wonderful person i'm sure you are and the right girl will come along and love you for you, not who she wants you to be.

Answer 9

maybe u r not the problem. it takes a while 2 find the perfect girl. don't get fustrated, but don't get into a relationship really quickly. take some time 2 know the girl before u ask her 2 b your girlfriend.

Answer 10

Don't change. The right one will eventually come along. I haven't found my Mr. Right yet and I have been waiting a few years. I haven't really been looking either, but I'm not changing my ways for anyone.