How do you knowif the one you are married to is the right one, I love him dearly, but that's all we have left.

Answer 1

My mom once told me to know if your really in love you have to look deep into your soul and ask yourself if you can see your life with out that person.. try to picture that person living a life with out u in it, a new gf, ect.. does it break your heart? if none of this phases you, then your not really in love.. but, your already married, you to a vow , try to remember what made you fall in love with him in the first place.. remember that cloud 9 feeling, the giddiness..if you love him, really love him.. then find that giddiness again, and look around at your gf's and their husbands or bf's.. if their anything like my gf's alot of them are dealing with ****** husbands , disrespect, drinking, wondering eyes, being a dead beat ect.. and you know what.. it makes me realize that although sometimes my marriage isnt as exciting and not the romantic novel i hoped for, I have a pretty damn good husband, that loves me, and doesnt treat me badly.., hes a great dad, and i could of done so much worse.. so im pretty damn lucky..

Dont rush into thinking that he grass is greener on the other side, u didnt say but im guessing if u love him dearly that he must be a pretty alright guy.. and they are hard to find, and many woman would do just about anything to have a good man by their side..

Good luck.. and find the love again, if u had it once, surely u can find it again if you just look hard enough for it..

Answer 2

Your missing the point to marriage....love is the key to having a successful relationship but it is not the only thing. Both of you need to put 100 percent each into this relationship in order for it to work. There must be compassion, understanding, compromise, and the list goes on. Do you know how many people would kill to be in your situation?
You chose to marry this person for better or for worse not for better or until I feel like I don't want to try any more. There must be some thing that you both share or maybe not that sparked in your heart about each other. Find it and if you can't find something start with communication.

Answer 3

Once you are married, he's not just the "right one" he's the "only one".
All possibilities of anything less need to be banished from your mind.
Kinda like seeing your relationship as this magnificent kingdom and all things harmful to that kingdom-including negative thoughts-are banished.
Marriage is hard work and our society today doesn't help with it's try it on and toss it out philosophy, but remember-you said I do and you keep saying I do every single day-even when there are times when you feel "I don't".
Don't base your short term doubts on how you feel-feelings are temporary and transient. Base your convictions rather on what you KNOW-ie-he's your husband-you love him dearly-the two of you are one magnificent kingdom.
Good luck-hang in there ; the long-term rewards are SO worth it.
P.S. A good nights sleep often helps too!!!

Answer 4

love is important and if you are happy that is all matter

good marriage is an intimate and loving relationship which gives both partners security, friendship, companionship, support, comfort, and deep love that penetrates every aspect of life. None of this can be achieved without work and sacrifice.

Marriage may be compared to a plant that requires daily nurture, daily attention, daily care and cultivation. It will not develop of its own accord; only as effort and will are exerted will it grow and mature. For a marriage to succeed, both husband and wife must be committed to its success. They must build an enduring love relationship that is centered in the heart of their consciousness. Their relationship must be nurtured with the water of loyalty and love.

Answer 5

Funny, you said you love him dearly but that's all you have left.

Love is all you started with...isn't it?

Love makes him the right one. Nothing else really matters.

He is the right one, my friend.

Answer 6

If you love him so much, try to move in with him, and live at least 6 months and you will know if he is the right one for you.

Answer 7

Why did you marry him? Love is an important emotion. If you love each other, you should be open about what your marriage does not have and see if you two could rekindle the passion.

Answer 8

bless u , i lived like that for the past 2 years but finally u will realize if its right and he truly makes u happy or not. have some time apart, if u miss him loads it is a good sign but if u feel happier when he is not there---u will know the answer.

Answer 9

That became the situation with my (very last) marriage. We were acquaintances for years earlier we were given married. It wasn't extraordinarily romantic yet we cared about one yet another (i presumed). merely is going to exhibit human beings can replace even after years of understanding them. :( <<<<< no longer suitable both

Answer 10

it doesn't really matter now, 'if' he's the right one. He is the only one. remember the better, worse, til death stuff... love is a determination of the will. it's a good place to start...