I took care of my Mom's Kennel while she was in the Hospital for a few days. I did the best I could with handling phone calls and clients, and I was also tending to my baby. It was hard because I had to walk all the dogs atleast four times a day, feed and water the dogs by myself for several days. Some of the clients wanted grooming, so I had to ask them to call back later to speak with Karen, my Mom's groomer. They said okay. When some clients found out Mom had been in the hospital they decided not to bring their pets to the Kennel. I told them to bring them, but they decided not to. Anyway I did my best to help. This week my Mom writes me a letter saying that I ruined her Kennel business, I was rude to her clients and she is angry and disappointed in me. She also said that she was ashamed to call me her daughter. I don't even think I want to go visit her. I don't want Chester to be robbed of grandparents, but if Mom wants to act this way, oh well. I just dont' know what do
2006-06-29 16:56:36 · 9 answers · asked by April Z 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hunny, you tried the best that you could being given this responsibility. You didn't have to do it but you did it as a favor to your mom. Don't beat yourself up. Your mom should not have said such things. She is ungrateful. She shouldn't have taken that approach, if she is upset about something she should've talked with you about it. I think that you should go and visit your mom regardless of what she said you are her daughter and it will mean a lot to her in the future, if push comes to shove at least you did your part. If she is still negative towards you give her some time to cool off she's probably going through a rough time especially since she was in the hospital. It is best to sort things out, two wrongs don't make a right. Explain what happened at the business while you were there, and let her know that you did your best...Good luck and try your best to maintain a cool head...For Chester's sake.
2006-06-29 17:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by BaBy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is some problem! I would let her cool off and see where that goes. A "motherly love" will never go away no matter what. You explain that you did the best that you could, but did you "really do your best", or were you not completely there? Tell her how you feel and tell her that you are sorry. Also tell her that you love her no matter how mad she is. If she is still mad at you then tell her that she did not deserve you to help her when she was hospitalized. Grudges hardly last very long anyway. Good luck with this!
2006-06-30 00:03:23 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you're telling the whole story then I don't understand why your mom is so mad? Who would have done anything at all at her kennel if you hadn't? And what would THAT have done to her business? I would write her another letter back and explain that people didn't bring their dogs because they didn't want her to feel burdened. And explain that her customers will come back when she's well, they just want HER expertise, not a fill-in. And if she replies with another hateful letter, then I'd either write her a letter saying goodbye or I just wouldn't write her at all. I'd wait for her to realize she was wrong and come back herself.
2006-06-30 00:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from what you have told us it appears that there are no obvious reasons for her saying what she did. Maybe one of the customers misconstrued something you said. It's easy to come across offensive even when you think everything you say is hunky-dorey. I would get all the details from your mom in why she decided to write this letter. If you feel like you did everything with a good heart then you have nothing to lose in turning all stones.
2006-06-30 00:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Sierra Sun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are parents... you did the best you could and it wasnt appreciated... go visit her, and apologize for not doing a better job than she expected... Let her know that it'd be best if she found someone else next time since you dont want any ill feelings between the two of you...
2006-06-30 00:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by kahtifah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone and let her cool off. If you truly did your best then you don't need to explain yourself or apologize in any way. I think your mom is being totally unreasonable and ungrateful. Leave it alone for now.
2006-06-30 00:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by Robin W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the quite time!! You did the best you could so don`t worry she`ll come around!!
2006-06-30 00:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by bren_jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some time she will get over herself.
2006-06-30 00:01:36 · answer #8 · answered by Zacko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it me and my mom are not talking
2006-06-30 00:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by Brittany C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋