please help with my sex life after having a baby
2006-06-29 16:48:05 · 12 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if your spouce cant go without sex especially considering that your not interested i strongly suggest you consider why your with him. He can pleasure himself or you could do so for him but if you dont want to have intercourse then he should respect that. How about if he got "fixed" and You wanted some? would he be happy with you?
I dont suggest you do it with him and you have every right to take as long as you want or need before you do so again. If he cant go without it then he is wrong and HE is the one damaging the family. please dont take advice about going ahead and doing it with him because to be honest.. "YOU DONT WANT TO"
2006-06-29 17:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by Me who am lost 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad. I didn't want to have sex either after I had my baby. Your husband should have more understanding if he is the one pressuring you to have sex. If you are the one being hard on yourself, let up, take it easy because your urge to have sex will come back someday. Your body does go through many hormone changes also after having a baby. Besides, you don't want to get pregnant right away either because it's not good for you. My doctor told me a woman should wait 18 months after having a child before you think about getting pregnant again. Trust me the sex urges will come back, just give it more time. If it doesn't go visit your doctor and talk about it. Maybe the doctor can help.
2006-06-30 00:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by April Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from. It's so tiring trying to care for a small child, who wants to think about sex. It's completly normal to feel this way. Maybe you can get a sitter one night, go out to a romantic dinner with your husband and then maybe that will help you to get in the mood.
2006-06-29 23:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't there a compromise you guys can come up with? Can you at least try once in a while. How about some DVD's and a "sleeve" or some other device to amuse him in the meantime. Adam and Eve. com offers a variety of items. Maybe you can give him a thrill by looking with him.
2006-06-29 23:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by doubleginxd 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just like Viagra for men there are drugs to enhance women sexual desire. you can surf the web ask your doctor or pharmacist. I also heard that shots of testorone in small amounts can help. not enough to turn you into being mannish but to kick start your desires. another hint, every morning look in the mirror and behold the wonder and beauty that is you.
2006-06-30 00:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by midnight red 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby takes a toll on your body. Your husband should be considerate of this fact. I suggest couples counseling.
2006-06-29 23:51:11 · answer #6 · answered by carmelbrown2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem after having my second child and it ended up costing me my first marriage. If your feelings don't change soon...seek medical advice.
2006-06-29 23:51:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to make yourself have sex, ive been there, that was the last thing on my mind. but you cant forget about "daddy" he needs some attention to. maybe talk to your doc to see if there is anything out of whack with your hormones
2006-06-29 23:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by thepainter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it takes time before you adjust back to the non-pregrancy body. May be yours is taking a longer time just tell him so.
2006-06-30 01:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by ωнєη уσυ ѕмιℓє уσυ мαкє мє ѕмιℓє 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this isnt normal to start with in my opion you need to see. a. dr. on this matter your marrag depends on this matter as well he in time will find a woman who isnt like you this is fact .see. your .dr. then ask hih this . my opion///
2006-06-29 23:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋