I met this guy online in April of this year. He was in Iraq and coming home just to go back to base in NC at the time and I live in NJ. He is now in TX going home to CO soon. But we have been communicating all though this. We have made plans to meet soon as well. He even asked me to move to CO with him. I mean everything seemed picture perfect but I have my doubts that he was as good as he wanted me to think so I pretended to be another girl and see how he would react to another girl. I asked if he was single and all. Since he said I was his GF he said he was and that he & I were friends. When I confronted him about it he said, That he didn't see it as a real relationship cause of the distance but he still loves me. And he was sorry that he messed up but he was just talking it meant nothing. We still talk and all. Should I trust him when he tells me he loves me and nothing as changed ? Only mature answers.
2006-06-29 16:20:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
** First off it wasn't me playing head games. I was testing his loyalty which he failed by denying me.
And second I didn't turn down his offer to move with him. I had told him it wasn't the time cause of my work. He understood so has said when I can then I shall. Just a little update**
2006-06-29 16:30:06 · update #1
Well, kinda hard to say. I think that it was WRONG on his part for not acknowledging the fact that he was in a relationship. I do believe in second chances though. Now, moving with him could me the best thing that has happened to you or the biggest mistake of your life. I would make sure that eveything is what he says before I would make a commitment like that to anyone. I would suggest meeting and spending time with him before up and moving with him. That just seems logical. Be really careful.
2006-06-29 16:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by import_lover2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. You need to establish this relationship. Do you feel comfortable with him? You have never met him but does he seem trustworthy? It's a scary thing meeting someone online. I met someone and we have developed a friendship, a bond. But we are both married and nothing will ever come of it. We both know that, yet we have this strong connection to each other. When you too meet make sure it's in a public place. Establish a relationship that's real and take it from there. By no means should you move in with him.
2006-06-29 23:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he offered to move to CO together, he apparently was offering to make a commitment/sacrifice which you didn't accept, so you weren't really committed to him. Therefore, he was still 'single'. Now that you have shown him that you like to play games and 'test' him before you make any sacrifices, he would probably be better off to ignore you. If he is smart, he would, anyway. You can't 'trust' him, and he can't 'trust' you until you actually meet and get to know one another. Trust is a local function, and like gravity, it weakens by the inverse square proportion to the distance.
2006-06-29 23:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by auntiegrav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOO havn't you ever seen those things on the news where like some girl met a guy on the internet, he gets her away from the family, and then like attacks her!! I would only go if I hav at least three other people with me the whole time.
2006-06-29 23:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by Lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya u should trust him still. I wouldnt move out there until u have actually met him and have been SEEING him for a little while cause why uproot if it may not work
2006-06-29 23:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by masterstoaf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person can trick you on line and in person you really do not have a background on this person to know if he is really who he is becareful it is a lot of dangerous people out here how do you know he really love you yall was just on line that's not love just a bunch of words
2006-06-29 23:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by donna g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you playing mind-games with a man that's seen alot of mess?
2006-06-29 23:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy.
Never trust anyone!
2006-06-29 23:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by DC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋