I am a student and I have a little boy. My husband works full time and so my son is with sitter s most of the day. I have a hard time spending my entire day with him I tend to need a break so school is good for that but I feel this inner guilt for leaving him I can't tell if it was imposed by church or just my own inner anguish for feeling like a bad mother. Please help...
2006-06-29 16:10:19 · 3 answers · asked by anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As members of the church, we are always pulled in so many directions. The brethren have stressed the importance of education, but they also say to not put off having a family. It sounds to me like you are trying to keep the counsel the best you can. School ends, it isn't forever. If your child is with good sitters and safe, I really wouldn't worry about it. After all, if you were at home all day, you wouldn't constantly be interacting with him. There are nap times, and free play time, and time that the dishes have to get done. A babysitter can fill in for those times as easily as you. Finish your education. You may really need it some day. I think that it is common for all women to feel guilty (mormon or not) when they have to leave their children. In a few years, you will be done with school. You will be a better mother because you will be better educated. Just be sure that the time you have with your son is good time, where he can have your full attention. If you are really worried about this, fast and pray, and tell the Lord what your plan is, then see if you get the confirmation of the Spirit. If you don't, then you may need to change things a little. But if you do feel the comfort of the Spirit, let go of the guilt, and move forward. The fact that you are even worried about this proves that you are not a bad mother!!!! Be gentle with yourself.
2006-06-29 16:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by Ilene W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your religion has nothing to do with how you feel unless it is implied by it. i was also following as a mormon but soon realized that nothing is based from the Bible and realized that for me it just isnt right.
What your feeling is normal and your are not wrong for it. your child is and has been with you for 2 years and counting and just like anything else you need time for yourself. If going to school does the trick im glad because i would feel differently about your parenting if you where going out and doing things that could be considered wrong so that you could avoid parenting.
So long as your child is in good care and you keep doing a good job raising your child your a super parent.
2006-06-29 16:55:13 · answer #2 · answered by Me who am lost 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is from religion leave the latter day saints cmon anyone makes u where a freakin garment underneath your clothes always cause "its been blessed" is goofy as crap and besides study what a cook joseph smith was, move on dude cmon u work u are there for your family no need for guilt
2006-06-29 16:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋