my bf downloads porn all the time to watch, like everyday.I have told him to try and cool it for now because i am pregnant and very insecure right now.befor i didn't mind we watched it together, but nothing has changed he'll watch it while im gone or sleeping, does he have a problem??I understand hes male , but shouldn't he have enough respect to stop for awhile.
2006-06-29 16:00:33 · 16 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He very well could have a problem.
Porn fills a need for most men that watch it. If he is not getting sex it sometimes can be an outlet. If used normal he would use it to masturbate and then be done with it. But not when you are there.
If he is doing it all the time just for the sake of watching then he has a problem. You are right about you being insecure. He very much should respect that and let you know how much he loves you and wants to help you through this time.
To go against your wishes at a time like this is either rebellion or just disrespect.
Make sure he knows how it hurts you and why. Guys can be a bit self centered and may not understand how it effects you.
2006-06-29 16:12:26 · answer #1 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have a problem with him. You should probably talk to someone about this. Ask him why he does this and remind him that he does have a problem. Let him feel that you think he's insane and that he's not a worthy man. This might seem weird but it would be best to get back on him. Try finding a way to deal with his problem. You should fight fire with fire then with water. So find a way to get back at him then persuade him to stop. Think moneywise aswell, if the porn costs him.
2006-06-29 23:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you have nothing to be insecure about. A pregnant woman is beautiful, you have another life growing inside of you. I think that your boyfriend is trying to respect your wishes, he is not watching the porn in front of you. Men are very visual and they just love to look. I wouldn't worry about it.
2006-06-29 23:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start watching your own porn...see how he likes it.
But I wouldn't worry to much...online porn can get addictive to watch..but I don't think it means he would prefer this type of women over you...in fact I don't even think it's about the women in the video's. It's about fantasies...I bet he pictures you doing some of these things.
And if it still bothers you download cybernanny or something...that will restrict him hopefully long enough to break the addiction.
2006-06-29 23:09:28 · answer #4 · answered by GooberPottybrains 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well y'all were watching it together so he feels that there is no need to stop. You shouldn't have started watching it in the first place. He is now addicted to it just like someone addicted to drugs or smoking. It's gonna be a little hard to get him off that behavior. Sorry.
2006-06-30 00:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by ωнєη уσυ ѕмιℓє уσυ мαкє мє ѕмιℓє 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't have a problem with my bf watching porn, and like you I watch it with him. I understand your insecure right now, but he's still there, and he would rather be with you. So don't stop watching it with him. He's home and he's not cheating on you, so his heart's with you.
2006-06-29 23:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by tinydancer42001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think anythings wrong with watching porn.However,he IS addicted.The fact that he is not respecting your wishes, considering that your pregnant with his child, is sad.Tell him he is hurting you and he really needs to stop, or your going to have to take a time out from each other.Good luck and focus on your pregnancy.You have enough to worry about without him adding anything to it.Stay healthy and congrats.
2006-06-29 23:06:08 · answer #7 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!! You sound just like me 5 years ago!!! If you continuosly ask him to stop and he doesn't then leave...at least for a few days just so he knows you are serious!!!! When you are pregnant you feel so blah and unattractive!!! And that only intensifies it!!! Make sure he knows how you feel about it and keep reminding him....get MAD!!!! Get FURIOUS!!!! You have every right! If he still doesn't stop then that just shows he does not respect YOU or your feelings so he isn't worth keeping around!!! Sad but true.....Good luck!
2006-06-29 23:05:26 · answer #8 · answered by MNM0103 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems kinda arrogant, but hey... every guy likes porn. Just as long as it's not an extreme obsession or addiction. Talk to him about it, and tell him how you feel about it, and get him to cut back.... but don't expect him to stop completely.
2006-06-29 23:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have respect but when it comes to porn, most men don't. Nothing you can do about it, if you keep complaining you're asking for trouble. Ig nore it if you can, it's better than him out cheating.
2006-06-29 23:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋