Why do parents that are responding.....?

Question

make the most ridiculous suggestions about parenting? Allowing your children to sleep with you at night to help them sleep better is a HORRIBLE suggestion. This does not help "save a soul", but rather raises a co-dependent needy brat.

By the way, I do have kids. I'm not bitter at the world, just insanely arrogant know-it-all parents. When people ask legitimate questions, respond with a legitimate answer and not the "that's wrong, let me tell you how I do it because I'm better than you" That's all I'm saying.

Answer 1

I'm not sure how sleeping with your child--something that most human beings who have ever lived on this planet have done and most people alive today are *still* doing is ridiculous and horrible. You must have pretty high standards if you think that only Americans are decent human beings...although one *could* point out that the US today is one of the most violent, sick societies that has ever existed.

While it is certainly *not* the case that a child who sleeps with her/his parents is more likely to grow up to be "needy", the child *is* more likely to grow up. SIDS kills thousands of babies a year, and co-sleeping protects babies (to a degree--not completely) from SIDS... I'd rather have a living baby than an "independent" one--not that I've seen many 3 month old who prepare their own meals and go out to work every day, no matter *where* they sleep!

In fact, my oldest--the only one who *didn't* sleep with us is the most needy of all of mine...

Answer 2

Any parent who wants to sleep in the same bed as their 5 year old child has some issues to work on. And the child will grow up with some issues as well.

Any 5 year old child ought to have their own bed. They ought to be able to spend the night in that bed on their own. If they can't, then they need help. If the parenting isn't good enough, then get professional help.

Parents need to define their own space. If your 5 or 12 or 16 year old can come waltzing into your bedroom anytime to sleep with you, then someone has problems setting limits. The child will not respect you, and you will have problems with them seeing you as an authority.

They are your CHILDREN, and YOU are in control. Whether or not they sleep with you is under your control. The only reason they would be in your bed is if you truly wanted them there. And that is a disturbing thought. Do the right thing for your child. They are not supposed to be a substitute for your best friend or lover.

Answer 3

A co-dependant needy brat, huh? I have 6 kids, and co-slept with all except the oldest. Each of my babies was sleeping in his or her own crib by the age of 6 months (except the youngest, she's only 3 months old and still snuggles with me at night), and they all have slept in their own beds ever since, except for when one has the occassional nightmare. It was so easy to get them in their crib, because by then their sleep schedule was already firmly in place. This has worked out perfectly for our family, because when you're as busy as I am, you need your sleep, and that's the best way to get it because you can feed your baby right there in bed. All of my babies have slept through the night nearly from day one because of co-sleeping. I'd suggest it to anyone, with the only catch being that you HAVE to know how to SAFELY do it! And I'd never let my kids become brats, because they're not allowed to get away with stuff like that.

Answer 4

Do you have kids? It sure doesn't sound like it. You do not know until you are in that situation. My son is 9 mo. old and to help him sleep better he will probably end up in our bed! And it sounds like you are a "co-dependent needy brat."
Now, how does that grab ya?

Answer 5

I sincerely hope you do not have any children, and if you do they obviously were not breastfed. My second daughter is now 2 months old and sleeping with me at night. It's so much easier to fed her when she right there plus I can get to her before shes full on crying. Second it sounds like you just need to have a little compassion. Haven't you ever been scared as a child? You feel like your parents can protect you from anything when you're small. Perhaps your problems stem from a similar issue..?

Answer 6

Actually kids that are raised in an attachment parenting atmosphere (co-sleeping, babywearing, extended nursing) are much more independent b/c they know someone is always there for them. Co-sleeping is very natural and who doesn't want to cuddle with their baby! Children are blessings, not brats.

Answer 7

WHAT? People have been sleeping together in the same room since we were rodents, its the natural way of things. Many families in other countries share a room, it teaches tolerance.
As far as NEEDING to be in the same room with you, they grow out of it, some sooner than others.
Sleeping in the same room doesn;t cause brattiness, parents who don't put their foot down, and cave after being asked the same question several times causes brattiness.

Answer 8

That is not true. In most countries around the world, children sleep with their parents for several years and grow up just fine. My baby sleeps in her own room but if she is isnt feeling well or something i have her sleep next to me. It gives her comfort and security. Nothing wrong with that.

Answer 9

who cares if your child sleeps with a parent there your child some day they wont be little any more so i say cherish those moments when you wake up with your childs feet in your face. you think you cant raise a needy little brat just because they dont sleep in your bed think again my child isnt needy or a brat shes just a kid who cares about others more than she thinks of herself.

Answer 10

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