my girlfriend is 8 weeks pregnant and told me that i did it on purpose and she doesnt want me around?

Question

its our first and i want to be there for everything like to hear the heart beat and the ultrasound and she wont let me her mom doesnt know should i tell her and tell her whats going on

i have been i told her that im not going anywhere and she wont talk to me im havent sleeped in 3 days and i dont want to miss anything and im afffraid she wont let be be apart of anything she said she will call me when the baby is born

she is 21 and im 25 and yea it was unplanned but im over that and im trying to do the right thing and support her

i wont tell her mom but shes going to have it but i hate this i tell her im here for her and she says i dont want you around and you wont be around and i will have visitation rights and have to pay child support which i understand i make more then enough to pay that but thats not the point i know we can work things out but she wont talk to me. she has a friend at work that knows should i talk to her to talk to her its her best friend

its been going on for 4 days know and when she told me it was 1am and i drove a hour and a half to see whats going on and she told me to leave and the next day she called in to work so i went back to her place and told me to leave again or she was going to call the cops

should i talk to her best friend at work to see whats going on and to give her some advise

well i did lie about something that happened 7 years ago but i told her but not everything and no one is perfect i got arrested for something really stupid and i told her the charge but not the whole story but she knew the major points about i and she didnt care but know shes throwing it in my face that i lied but thats the only thing i didnt tell her and she knows that

sorry she is 19 goig on 20

i do love her and wantto give her the world and support her threw this whole thing she my life wasnt complete till she came along and she completes me and she know show i feel about her but she just wont listen to her heart that i am a great guy and i did **** up in my past but it was something i did its not who i am

Answer 1

All you can tell her is that it takes two & she can't blame it all on you when she laid down also. I couldn't say a word cause it's not your place to tell them I know. I'm going through the same thing but different. I'm 4months & my boyfriend hasn't told his parents or anyone & i've thought several times to spell the beans but it's not my place cause it's there's. Good luck & just remember she'll want you to be there fin. & hopefully you can talk to her & let her know how you feel no matter what she thinks. Good luck

Answer 2

Hello! Pull your head out of your @$$! You or whoever couldn't have gotten her pregnant if she didn't want to be. Hell she could have been on the pill or shot and you would have never known. Sounds to me like there's someone else involved and she doesn't have the guts to tell you. Much easier to make you the bad guy than to be the conniving "b" that she's acting like. 10 to 1 her friend knows what's up and is put on the spot not to betray her and still be nice to you. Get on with you life and don't fool yourself, women are not, I repeat NOT as insecure and nieve as she's acting. Get a real woman who isn't a wimp and a sleezeball! Demand a paternity test as soon as the baby is born. You can go through your local child support enforcement agency, just call you local social services dept. or court house. Good luck, because you deserve better!! Oh yeah, and by the way, women can be emotional when pregnant, maybe get a little wimpy, but not the way she's acting. That's just a convenient excuse. And guess what it works. Poor men!

Answer 3

My best advise. Let her have a minute to breathe. Sometimes new moms that werent planning feel a little claustrophobic and trapped. Her emotions are messed up because the chemicals in her body are adjusting. If shes a hard worker that just added stress. Try not to be pushy even though you are scared. Calm down and be rational whether she is or not. A lie is a major issue of trust you will have to earn back her trust and not expect her to be over it immediately. I dont think that talking to her friends would be a bad idea unless they really dont like you. There may be more to the story then you know. Best wishes. Dont freak out fathers have rights. Just make sure your recent and current track record are positve things.

Answer 4

First of all, I think she had to be there too. But for the sake of argument, her hormones are going crazy right now and she is probably a little scared. Give her a few days to calm down, then calmly try a talk with her. Let her know how u feel. Let her know that u want to be there through the beginning and the duration, including when she tells her mom. You have a right to be a father just as much as she has to be a mother. With all the dead beat dads out there I commend you.

Answer 5

First off i would like to say at least there still are some good guys out there and from what you wrote on here you seem like a very good man. Second off don't give up on trying to be there for the life of your child but if she wants for you not be there just back off a little i'm not saying to completely give up hope just cut her some slack and yes you should tell her mom what's going especially if she has an attitude with you about you not being there by her side tell her just so she would know what's going on and she can't blame you for her decisions.
And don't worry about your baby's mother she will eventually come around from not wanting you there by her side trust me on this i wish my baby's father would have been there with me the hole way through stay strong and keep the faith. Can i add a personal note don't be like my baby's father my son is 2 months old and he hasn't even seen him at all haven't even gave me a simple phone call to ask how he is doing and trust me it hurt so bad to care about someone so bad and want them to come to their senses hoping they actually cared but know they don't so stay the way you are and congratulations!

Answer 6

First of all, it take two people to conceive a baby. She has just as much ability to use birth control as you do. It doesn't make sense to me that she doesn't want you to be around, unless you aren't really the father. I could be totally off base.

I definitely wouldn't tell her mother, unless you want her to hate you. Instead tell her that you'll be there for her, no matter what. Maybe she is considering not keeping the baby and that is why she doesn't want you around. If she is keeping the baby, father's have rights. You could get a court order.

If you want things to be good between the two of you, I'd suggest sitting down with her and one of her friends (who knows) and discussing things. Ask one of her friends who is sympathetic to you so you can at least get your say. Discuss things calmly and try to work things out.

Answer 7

Keep working at it man. Hormones are crazy right now. She might just be going through a phase. If you love her show her the best way you know how and don't go telling her mom it could make things worse. I'm sorry she's doing that I know it hurts.

Answer 8

snitching will only make matters worse. I think she will feel better later and let you in on the whole thing. she is upset right now and afraid. She has to carry it so she has a lot to think about and worry about unlike the father. Give her some time and let her know you are there for her without being pushy.

Answer 9

hi hon i am so sorry about that well you need to try to keep talking to her tell her that is your baby to and that you do not need to go through this by yourself. try not to make things worse but make sure you let her know that you are going to be there for her alot of girls may think that there man is not going to be there all the way through make sure you let her know that you are and make sure you do it. Also you need to tell ya family because you either do not need to do this alone either hope this help have a blessed day and i will keep you in my prayers

Answer 10

She's going through alot of changes. It could be her hormones talking. I was like that still am. Just give her some time. And dont leave her side. Tell her that your there for her, and how you feel. Good Luck.