My husband has not been passionate with me for over a month. My 10 year wedding anniversary was the 22nd of June. He did not do anything to celebrate it, yes money is tight right now, but he never made even a slight effort..
I finally got real emotional saturday, I went off and let him have it verbally.
2 night ago I tried to turn him on and make love to him, but he just laid there, didnt move and said everything wwas my faut..
I have not done anything and have tried to love him the best I can. I have been going through alot the past few years medically and with my career..finally getting those things under control..
So, what am I to even think or do now?
2006-06-29 15:16:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make him a nice card and tell him how your feeling...some guys have a hard time opening up about what going on their head and it might be easier if he reads it....give him plenty of time to have your feeling sink in.
Tell him how much you love him...maybe write a poem.
Talk about some of the good times you've had.and how much you're marriage means to you...maybe he can focus his thoughts to those times and not what's he seems to be so distant about and will be able to talk to you. Tell him he can tell you in a letter how he feels if that's easier for him. If not you could try counceling though I don't know how he will react to that...and if moneys an issue you might not be able to afford that as yet...but it's worth it to try and save your marrage.
Happy anniversary to you...though it wasn't very happy!
SmileyCat : )
2006-06-30 01:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by SmileyCat : ) 4 · 8⤊ 3⤋
A lot of men panic when their wives become ill. They get scared and all react differently. Sometimes the reaction may be delayed which sounds like what happend with your husband.
My best advice to you is to sit down and talk to him; try marriage counseling but also go to private therapy for just yourself. Empower yourself so that just incase something is going on or he leaves, you will have emotionally energy to draw from other places. Take some college classes. Go to Bingo games. Volunteer somewhere. Do anything that gets you out there with other people or that just makes you feel good about yourself.
Good luck! I am happy to hear that you are on the road to recovery and feeling better!!
2006-06-29 16:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by Encyclopedia Allie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The difference between men and women is that most men want to be left alone during tough times, and most women need to talk the hell out of it. Let it go for a couple of weeks, and if you still not having sex after a month, seek professional help.
2006-06-29 15:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by Barcelona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get you and your husband into counselling. if he wont go then you need to still go. and im sorry.. but even tho you think you havent done anything but love him, you may be wrong.. ask him what youve done and see what he says... 10 yrs is a long time and i pray things work out for you but you cant just push blame on just him.. somethings going on in his head and hes just not telling you so you need to ask...
2006-06-29 15:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by heavensent41770 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some friends together and go out in the town. Have a nice time.
2006-06-29 15:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Kindofknowit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't beat your yourself up too much or him either. there are reasons for this whatever they are. let him know you were only trying to please him because you love him & you may have both been under a lot of stress. Be honest with him & ask him to be truly honest with you. good luck. hope this helps.
2006-06-29 20:09:19 · answer #6 · answered by jamie s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an appointment with a marriage counselor!
2006-06-29 15:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i can somehow relate, but one thing keeps me going... is my love for him, that was a major deal he missed, and probably feels like an *** about himself.i would cut him off until he asks whats wrong with you , honey you can double click your own mouse.until he decides to be a man about himself.
2006-06-29 15:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to see a marrage councler the .2. of you . my opion?
2006-06-29 16:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's in pain...emotionally he's not there anymore. You have to bring him back. Try counciling
2006-06-29 15:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by Rabbit Ritto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋