When is it ok to have sex outside of one's marriage?

Answer 1

Personally, I don't think it's every acceptable to have sex outside of one's marriage. But, that's me and I'm not here to judge.

Answer 2

When you are separated or you and your spouse decide to change the promises you made when you married. Some people have "open marriages," which is a contradiction in terms but not wrong in my value systembecause it's honest and consentual.

This is your life no one knows it better than you or is in a better position to answer this question. If you are thinking of cheating on your marriage some things you may want to consider are as follows:

1. Do you like sneaking around?
2. How will you feel when your spouse finds out and is devastated? And they will find out. It is just a question of when. How are you going to feel about having caused such pain?
3. Do you enjoy using condoms?
4. Is it O.K. for your spouse to enjoy extra marital sex as well?
5. Condoms aren't a sure bet. Are you prepared to bring a commnicable disease home to someone who should be able to trust you? Are you prepared, in the extreme, to nurse your spouse in the final stages of A.I.D.S.?
6. Are you prepared to deal with an unplanned pregnancy? How will your spouse feel about this? What about your kids?
7. How will your kids feel when they find out about the affair? How will you explain it to them?
8. What happens when your lover starts pressuring you to see them more often or to leave your marriage?
9. If this is a work affair, how will you feel when you become part of the office gossip pool? Would/could your job be threatened? Allegations of sexual harrassment?
10. Is this potential lover worth risking your marriage for?
11. Whether you give out your home phone and address or not anyone can easily get them, unless you want to have a fake I.D. made and fool around with a complete stranger. Will it be O.K. with you when your lover starts calling the house? Driving by? Coming to the door?

12. Might you be able to open a dialog with your spouse about when they think it's O.K.?
13. Would it help to try a stress-free romantic get away with your partner? Do something sexually that you haven't done before. Do something romantically that you haven't done before. Do anything together that you haven't done before.Try this before making your decision. There's no rush, there'll always be someone out there willing to go with a married person, dime a dozen.
14. counseling?
15. Arranged marriages are not the norm in this country so presumably no one forced you to marry this person. Divorces are easy to get so no one is forcing you to stay with them either.
16. Take a peice of paper and list 10 things that first attracted you to your partner. Are you prepared to live with this person once the trust is gone? Do you think this will bring out the best in them?
17. Might fantasy and/or porn and masterbation be an alternative?
18. If it's excitement you seek, can you find another outlet?
19. Once the affair is over and you aren't quite so high, how compromised might you feel?

I think it's pretty clear where I stand on the issue but it's up to you. Keep us updated.

Answer 3

Never. If you want or need sex outside of your marriage respect both of you and get a divorce. How sad it is to bring others into an already unstable situation. Sad and unfair.
This again is another situation where more info would be helpful. Can your partner still perform or are they diabled, do they just not give you any, are you not attracted to them anymore.... more info please.

Answer 4

Depends on how seriously committed you are, how serious you are about your religion (if you are religious), if your spouse becomes a quadrapalegic, and maybe how your heart feels when you are bumping uglies with someone else. Oh, and mostly how quickly you can get dressed and get your hair combed so it dont have that f.f. look. (freshly f_ _ ked) I am sure there are more "ok" reasons and answers but thats the best I could do without putting alot of thought into it. hahaha (smile)

Answer 5

Never! If one wants to have sex outside of the marriage, they shouldn't be married or don't get married.......

Answer 6

That is never "okay." You'd be committing adultery. The marriage bed belongs to God a husband and a wife. Anyone else in there spells trouble.

Answer 7

Never. If you want to have sex with more than one person for the rest of your life, don't get married.

Answer 8

NEVER. If you're thinking about it, think again. Go to therapy to try and save your marriage. If that doesn't work, get a divorce and then do whatever you want. And try to figure out honestly what you want...

Answer 9

When you are no longer with that person!!!!!!Or I guess when its OK with your spouse, some people have what they call an open marriage, I could never have done that but some people do!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

Morally it's ok when the marriage is over.