i am engaged to a wonderful man that i love alot and we talk about everything but this issue i have i can't bring myself to talk to him about it without hurting his feelings or him getting mad at me for being honest and not want to be with me anymore. How do i talk to him about bathing or showering more often? Hygene is very important to me, especially when it comes to sex.
2006-06-29 15:13:06 · 8 answers · asked by sky the limit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's a little coniving but just take him by the hand and take a shower together. Do it everyday...and enjoy the things that happen during...he will get used to it. Afterward comment while you are snuggling that you love that smell...clean smell.
2006-06-29 15:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by Rabbit Ritto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, there really is no "easy" way to address someone about hygiene. just tell him the same way you told us. the best way would be to be as direct as possible! don't try to sugar coat it or beat around the bush. doing that will only get both of you on the wrong course of the conversation..leave no room for misunderstanding!
look at it this way, you want to be able to share honestly with your mate. should you have to tell a grown "apple" man about his hygiene? NO...but this is where you are right now...
the only thing that could happen would be him being embarrassed that you had to tell him about his hygiene. if he gets mad oh well.
i don't think you will have a problem, as soon as a man thinks he's going to be losing out on his "stuff" he will make the switch :)
besides if he wants to leave you because you told him to take a bath then LET HIM GO!! :)
2006-06-29 22:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that really is a touchy topic, i'd suggest you try showering together before you have sex..that way you wouldn't have to worry about the BO when you are doing the deed....i think though that you should say something to him about his BO..if it's bothering you chances are it may bother other ppl as well ...ur engaged try and say it in a not so harsh way like...how often do you shower i have to shower like twice a day how bout you..see what he says..and work from there..
2006-06-29 22:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can try to metion it to him, But try to get him to take a shower with you. Tell him that Hygene is one thing that is important to you.
2006-06-29 22:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by girlofthebunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him flat out: "if you want me to go down on you then you have to go wash it and use lots of soap! and not just on your c*ck, use it on your butt too and arm pits cuz baby your swamp a$$ is stank tonight! Oh, and brush your teeth!"
i have the same problem with my man too. and yes i say it just like that.
i also say that during the day too like: "did you put on deoderant today?" or i say "smile for me baby, show me some teeth!" then when he does i say "go brush them you got mold growing on those things!"
you can also try refusing to take him places until he cleans up and looks presentable (yes it sounds like your playing mom but sometimes we have to)
you can also help him by buying him good smelling liquid soaps and deoderants and collagne that you like. If you like it he may be more willing to use them. make him shave his head so he will have one less mess to worry about in the shower.
good luck!
2006-06-29 22:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand your situation...ask him to take a shower with you =/
2006-06-29 22:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by Qt W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it would work if you showered with him? ya never know
2006-06-29 22:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try taking a shower together....u wash him and he can wash u...oh what fun that can be!!
2006-06-29 22:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by troubleshy57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋