What do i do about my family?!?

Question

Ok, my family is somewhat well known. my family has celebrities in it and i suspect that part of my family has mob ties. some of my family are wealthy land owners. in general we are just a famous family. im not willing to give out my last name either. i just want to know how anyone else has dealt with this? it seems like a lot of pressure & i would like some imput from people in a similar situation. also, ive dated a very famous man, but we broke up, how do i not become known for dating him, i dont want to get in my own spotlight from being an ex!
also, i want to become a director- but not because of my connections i wanna make it on my own. but how?

i think my family has mob ties because of some of the deals that have been pulled off, my heritage, and some questionable "family friends" and about the wealth im known as the resident "spoiled girl" of my city and sometimes wonder how all these expensive things got to me....

trust me "ohiomandi26" i do NOT like this spotlight ive been put in. i dont want to feel better than anyone else, i want to be a normal human being that makes an honest living but working my *** off! not through connections!

Answer 1

Molly~

There's nothing wrong with using your connections or your name to get a start in an industry. People do it every day, even people who aren't from wealthy or famous families. It's called networking. That's what people do. If you're a good director, people won't say you got there because of your connections. They'll say, "Wow! She's a great director!" or "Wow! She's got the family talent!"

As far as dating the famous guy, if you're not already 'known' for dating him, chances are you won't become known later for it--just lay low for a while. If you don't want your reputation to be defined by dating famous men, quit dating famous men.

Everyone deals with pressure the pressure to succeed when they come from successful families--even when the success isn't weath and fame. Sometimes we're afraid we won't live up to our families expecations. Sometimes we're afraid that we'll be nobody in comparison.

You have the choice to not put so much emphasis on your family's status. You can decide to live your own life and forge your own path in the world. (I wouldn't turn down the allowance and trust fund though.) If you need to call in a few favors to get your foot in the door, do it. That won't mean that you didn't accomplish something on your own. Because once your foot is in the door, your performance will determine if you're successful, not your family background. People in business, I don't care what type of business, want to make money. And they're not going to continue to back you if you're not good. So use that foot in the door, don't be ashamed, and prove yourself.

You seem like you've got a good head on your shoulders. I think you'll do very well regardless of what type of life you decide to lead. Count your blessings because you're in the position to make almost any choice in the world you'd like to make about your future. All you need to do is figure out how you want to become YOURSELF and then do what you need to do to obtain your dream.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Well then you know people who know people. You are being proud. Let those around you with the power help you and along the way show your talent, they must know another director or something. Tell them if you could meet up with him/her and then show you didn't just go cause you are a spoiled little celebrity family member but cause you have what it takes to make it in the business. Good luck :)! Alone you won't get no where though. About the ex...don't worry when you make movies like Lord of the Rings or the Godfather, HE will be known as the ex....not you! About mob ties...you said you think...you're family is wealthy, doesn't mean they are mobs. You said yourself you think! Don't assume. If they are famous they get paid pretty well. Good luck :)!

Answer 3

Ok this is tough for most people to answer because we are just normal people living normal lives ~ The only thing i could think to tell you is to become acquainted with people in high positions but don't let your family or your connections come into the conversation ~ let them know how ambitious you are and that you won't stop till you've tried your hand at directing. Maybe that will get your name out there and get you started. Good luck!! :)

Answer 4

well you can first stop making yourself look semi important, via your connections, second, why on earth would you want to make a name for yourself based on the fact that you have been dumbed, by so~N~so. dating famous ppl does not make you cool via association, because if that's the fact, i use to date a pretty famous guy, who's a front man for a band, and dated a few drummers, who went on to be pretty damn successful, that doesn't make me important. i have allot of friends who have went on to be very famous, but i do not associate myself as a better person for knowing them, when we hang out, they are who they have always been, being famous does not make you a better person. having connections to famous ppl, and the mob do not make you a better person, you need to get off your high horse, and make a legitimate name for yourself!

Answer 5

Get out on your own and make it by yourself. If you really want
to do something you can. You probably don't have to worry about
money problems the way some of us do.

Answer 6

Change your last name!

Answer 7

molly who are u?? sorry but u sound SO familiar follow your heart and do what you belive