I have this thing where I must know about ex-girlfriends, I have no idea why and knowing how honest my husband is with me, he tells me. I think because he knows if he dont i'll be upset. so i dig and he tells. why when I find out am i really really mad? what is wrong with me?!!! I know that he is not cheating on me what so ever, but I am just so insecure. why is this and what can I do to stop saying smart remarks like........."who texted you, your mistress"? And dont say stop asking questions I dont want to know because I do want to know, I just dont want to be hurt by it.
2006-06-29 14:49:28 · 6 answers · asked by l_horton4nightfall 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I asked my husband about his ex before and he asked about mine. The thing is you get hurt because he is telling you about someone he has had a prior relationship with, someone he has been intament with. Its hard knowing that someone else has been with the man you love. I am sure your husband wasn't the only one you have been with either. Tell your husband..." I am sorry that i am always asking you about your exgirlfriends. Its just something i need to know about. If I seem a little upset its because its hard picturing sharing you with others. Also tell him .." When i get upset i need you to reassure me that i am the only one you want to be with." My husband reassures me all the time. He is always telling me how lucky he is to have me. I am able to trust him because he tells me I am the only one for him.
2006-06-29 15:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by natasha s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep asking questions.... and you will put yourself over the edge and ruin what seems to be a good relationship so far. What he did in the past or with whom doesn't matter right now, unless that part of the past is having a direct impact on your lives together today, Plus he didn't even know you when his past was unfolding. How would you feel if he kept dragging your past up,and constantly made sarcastic remarks that hurt you? Everyone has skeletons in the closet (including you),and that is where they belong LOCKED AWAY.If he's not cheating on you and you're still insecure,then you have the problem, and only YOU can resolve that issue!!! If you don't stop asking questions then busting balls with the info. you won't be married to him much longer!
2006-06-29 15:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by "N"saysable 1iric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you ask questions you should be prepared for the answer, whether its something you want to hear or not. why are his ex-girlfriends so important! he DID have a life before he met and married you, just like you had a life before you got married!
i mean don't get me wrong you do want to know about someones past but when it makes you upset there is a problem. YOU are married to him now! if he is not giving you a reason not to trust you need to let it go! you need to get a grip on your insecurity before you run him back to his ex!! it sounds like you have been hurt in your past and have not let it go. you cannot bring old baggage into a new relationship. it doesn't work! old baggage needs to be dealt with, closed etc so that you can move on in this marriage.
2006-06-29 15:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was married, I asked about the ex's. I didn't get jealous about it like you have. But later down the road he must of thought it was ok to still talk about the ex's. Then he could never understand why I seemed distance when he started talking about them. In the end, that is just one the reason why we didn't work. It may be hard, but you really shouldn't ask anymore cuz it will only end bad.
2006-06-29 14:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by Loopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you are married to him. it doesn't matter wheather he is having girl friends before but see that you don't miss him.
There is a strong belief in marriage that who ever it is they will try to live together with adjustments. You cannot just be perfect and change the past so be practical from now onwards in your relationship
2006-06-30 19:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound very young - I have seen this behaviour in young women and or women who marry too quickly after meeting the man they are going to marry. either way it all boils down to rushing through a courtship and getting married before you were ready. but this is just my opinion.
2006-06-29 14:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋