I have been married for 2 1/2 years, but I was with him for a total of 6 years. We have 4 children age range from 14yrs-1yr. I allowed my husband to drain the spirit for my soul and now i'm close to losing my mind. He is a wonderful provider and thats it!. I am the house wife, but he treats me like I am beneath him. He acts like he is not kid friendly and he is very disrespectful. Sould I free myself from the pain and start a fresh life for my kids and I or should I stick with it and hope that God steps in?
2006-06-29 14:45:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say , 'hasta la pasta.'
The fact that you question what your decision should be is admirable. Try counseling, if it doesn't work. Don't wait for anything. Leave!!! You have to believe that you are worth more than he treats you. You have to believe that you are priceless and whomever cannot accept that and at least TRY to treat you as such, is NOT worth your time.
It is a hard decision, trust me, I made it once too. It's not easy on the other side but it is liberating and puts a strength in you as a woman that you probably never knew you had.
I wish you well. Be patient and trust in yourself.
2006-06-30 12:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by Pretty_Trini_Rican 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one for me personally, because ive stuck around in hopes God will step in and so far--- God has done alot. BUT at the same time, how do you know you leaving isnt Gods plan for you? do you have a pastor you could talk to? depending on how hes disrespecting you and the kids--- i would talk to him with all the openness and all the honesty you can and make your decision after that.
2006-06-29 21:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by heavensent41770 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you been with him for 6 years I am sure he didn't change overnight...he probally has been like this for a while...is the wonderful provider the reason why you decided to marry him? Take a look at why you are with him and if it is for love then sit down and talk to him about everything...let him know how you feel and get treated...he may not realize he is being an @ss. let him know before you through the towel in....good luck.
2006-06-29 21:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by tweeterbird73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say God will not step in but he is definitely trying to open your eyes to see that u do not deserve misery. Misery loves company and that is all your husband is doing. Unfortunately, you need to find strength and courage inside yourself and take that first step towards freedom and save your children from being raised in that atmosphere. Trust me it will be a struggle but in the end you will thank yourself and especially God for watching over u and your children and giving you the strength.
2006-06-29 21:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To put it in terms: you're not his doormat. He should not be disrespectful to either you nor your children. He can be a wonderful provider from a distance. You need to get your life back on track, because every individual deserves to be happy. You can if you'd rather try marriage counseling. You also need to tell him you're not his doormat to be walked all over because YOU ARE NOT BENEATH him or anyone.
2006-06-29 21:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by the_doodle_bug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, NO. God gave you free will but those kids either must be taken away from you if you wish to stay or they deserve a Mom that will get them the h-e double L out of there. God gave you good sense and your going to let some man take it from you??????NO NO NO, Get the kids to a safe place and you need to run also, as fast as you can.
2006-06-29 22:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by NerdWomanCool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what you have to do for yourself and moreso for your children. You have the right and the duty to make sure that you dont allow your children to see you treated this way because they will grow up thinking that its ok to treat someone this way and/or be treated this way.
2006-06-29 23:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
key phrase, you ALLOWED him to... are you all talking? have you asked him why he acts this way? is he up for going to marriage counseling? if so great, if not you have got to learn to set some boundaries so he wont continue to treat you like he does...its going to be tough but in order for you to get your life and spirit back, you have to take YOUR life back!
2006-06-29 21:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now would probably be a great time to get counseling and see if your marriage can be saved. Perhaps he doesn't realize just how you feel. seek professional help.
2006-06-29 21:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by adh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try marriage counciling...one of the key elements to any marriage is respect...if he doesn't have it for you or the kids he needs to get it...quick.
2006-06-29 21:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Rabbit Ritto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋