i used to be a real jealous person,then for about 5 years now everything has been fine in that department.after 7 years almost we concieved our child..wow.but now he withdraws from me when we go to bed, he talks about this other girl at work alot!but she has a man ;un;. he said she is the most gorgoues woman he has ever seen, now he talks about her alot. and i dont seem important enough.i never hear him talk about me.is this just my hormones, and what do you guys think. im going crazy with this.
2006-06-29 14:40:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, congratulations. Second, you definitely need to find out exactly where his head is. He may just be scared due to the baby and the extra responsiblity. Whatever his reason, it is horribly insensitive of him to talk about another woman to you. Your body is going though so much right now, changing every day. You are making a human being, it's hard work. He needs to get his head out of his *** and start thinking like the lucky husband and father he is. Point blank ask him what is going on. Tell him how he is making you feel and ask him to share his feelings with you. It really will work, and y'all will be great parents. Good luck...
2006-06-29 14:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of 3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing during your pregnancy your husband felt a lot of pain and was sick a lot. almost as if it was him who was pregnant.
after child birth most women get post pardon depression but in some cases where the husband suffers from sympathy pains will end up with a male version of post pardon depression. he feels guilty for getting you pregnant so he will withdraw before climax.
He may also feel unwanted by his spouse and will look at other women. best thing to do is seek counseling your doctor can be of more help and explain this better and send you to the right people.
best of luck
2006-06-29 21:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might just be your hormones, but you should really talk to him about how you are feeling. He needs to know that his partner needs attention and that maybe he is talking about this other woman a bit too much. He shouldn't be coming home saying she's the most gorgeous women he's ever seen - you should be the apple of his eye.
2006-06-29 21:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmmmmmmm---- bad news girlfriend--- even IF he isnt doing anything with her right now--- he will and secondly, hes totally disrespecting you by even mentioning her, let alone telling you how pretty she is--- you basically have 3 choices, leave and go thru hurt for a lil bit, stay and go thru hurt ALOT or try to get him counselling..... but always think of your child first and foremost, they see everything and hear everything and they are their parents image and will do and act the same way you guys do so if that baby aint reason enough to pack up and leave---- i dont know what is.
2006-06-29 21:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by heavensent41770 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you are crazy .You are jealous to him but you still accompany him.He talked a lot about other woman,but you do not tell him that you are hurt and ask to stop acting like that.You should give him a lesson that a guy should appreciate his girlfriend..You must tell him that you hate guy who spoke everything about other woman especially her beauty,her inteligence and other her good conduct.If your guy still speaking about that I think you are better cut your relationship with him.He is not a smart guy.
2006-06-29 22:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have EVERY right to be jealous, not to mention ticked off!!! Listen to your gut because if something isn't already going on between them, he wants it to be!
I'm so sorry that this is happening to you right after the birth of your child! That's a stressful time in itself, now this!
Good luck!!!
2006-06-29 23:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by Encyclopedia Allie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It called the 7 year itch......you and your husband should talk....let him talk openly about this woman and let him get whatever out of his system....otherwise she will become an item instead of an issue.....there are links online.....type 7 year itch in search and look for number 7....from webmd....
2006-06-29 21:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jedi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all....dress up nice and do the stuff he likes for dinner,or from an attitude perspective. if he doesnt react to that ...that means that he is not paying attention to your relationship with him...so you would have the right to have the conversation about your feelings.
2006-06-29 21:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by confuse06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like an infatuation with the girl at work
2006-06-29 21:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋