how can I boost my self esteem?

Question

without fealing like an idiot

Answer 1

simple... just believe the hype.

Answer 2

I thought that might be your next question, since some of us that just answered your other question ("why don't people like me?") said "get some self-esteem"...easier said than done, I guess.

Well some people need professional help with getting a boost in self-esteem. Certain types of therapists can help with that (cognitive behavioral therapy, for example). But if that's not an option for you, you might try reading some books on the subject. Here's one:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0553266462/002-3510589-0328834?v=glance&n=283155

Engage in a lot of positive self-talk. When you realize you're having negative thoughts about yourself, turn it around immediately and think of something positive about yourself instead. I know this isn't easy, but just try it.

Maybe you could join some clubs like bicycling, hiking, sky diving, whatever you have an interest in. You would meet other people that enjoy doing the same things you do, and make some accomplishments that you could be proud of. You could even join something like Toastmasters, where you have to get up and make speeches in front of people -- that might train you to be less nervous with people.

It's going to take time to raise your self-esteem, don't expect instant results. But the better you start feeling about yourself, your self-image is going to take on a life of its own and begin to improve more and more without your even trying so hard.

Answer 3

Self Esteem and Exercise

Self-esteem is defined as " The experience of being capable of meeting
life's challenges and being worthy of happiness. "
Exercising greatly enhances your self esteem and mental outlook while reducing stress.

Self-esteem is a critical component of any program aimed at
self-improvement. A close relationship has been documented between low self-esteem and such
problems as violence, alcoholism, drug abuse, eating disorders, school
dropouts, teenage pregnancy, suicide, and low academic achievement.

It is never too late to start a work out program to best build toward your goal of improved self image, and always too early to stop exercising.
Exercise is necessary for your physical and mental health. The focus of this article is to
explain how exercise improves your self image.

Sudden, seasonal, bursts of energy towards getting in shape come and go
with the ever-changing weather. What is important is that maintaining some
form of physical exercising, beyond your every day cycle, helps reduce
anxiety while building emotional strength. How? Physical strain weakens
pent-up, nervous, energy; that would otherwise fester and brew harshly
within you. One theory is that endorphins, a chemical the
pituitary gland produced during vigorous exercise improves your mood.
Regular exercise also decreases the risk of heart disease and cancer, and there seems to be a connection between these illnesses and depression.

Most people agree that even though they may not look forward to doing a workout, they tend to feel better after they do, and equally better to assume their rightful place at work.

It should never bother you to take the relatively minor steps necessary to improve your health; especially when doing so can only upgrade your self esteem along the way. Even people in their nineties who have not been active for many years can strengthen bones, muscle, heart and lung capacity when they start and maintain a steady exercise program. You don't have to exercise every day to achieve goals for good health. Initially, aim for every other day.

Answer 4

dont be rude to people for a start. How can you feel good about yourself if you put others down? I have played roller hockey before you @$$ O why do you assume that I've never played it was like 8 years ago and i was just wanting to get another pair for my girlfriend so we could exercise together. I didn't say i was a pro or anything YES i played roller hockey locally but I'm not trying to impress you, you can piss off. I just wanted to see if anyone could remember this company and if they still existed. 2 pts for telling you how much of an idiot you are...

Answer 5

1. Believe in yourself
2. Dont be lonely, have friends. Even if you dont think you can, start small, with like a dog or another pet and just work your way up the social ladder.
3. Have a good job, so your life doesnt feel worthless, you have to have some meaning in your life
4. and finally, have some fun!

Answer 6

Read the book "The Power Of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale.

It's done wonders for millions of people in nearly all walks of life, including me.

Answer 7

You're alright. Just try to relax. Pretend you're on TV. Like a reality show. Just act like you want to act. Be who you want to be. And don't force people to like you. Turn the tables on them. Act like you like to see them when they're around but don't ask them to be around. Tell your roommate you want to throw a party or something. If they're going out and your not, get dressed up and ready to go but say your going somewhere else. Then at the last moment be like "ah no they stood me up, can I come with you?" The get's them every time. Good luck, and keep your chin up.

Answer 8

believe in yourself.. you can start by praising every small little good things you've done.. by tat way, bit by bit, day by day.. u'll feel better of urself and thus build up ur self-esteem...

Answer 9

Climb a tree.

Answer 10

Think to yourself when staring at yourself at the mirror.
"I'm a goddess and I'm to be cherished."

Answer 11

get good friends and have a good time