i have a drinking problem im trying to get help with i have lied 2 her about drinking but she means the world to me plus shes carying my baby and shes seeing somone else
2006-06-29 14:15:42 · 11 answers · asked by dallasbll 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's time to wake up and realize what you are doing! This drinking habit has maybe caused you to act out or be somebody that you are not. You can't expect a woman to put up with your bad behavior for ever. I'm not trying to be mean, or make you feel bad. There is nothing that anyone can really say to ease your pain. That will just take time. But I can give you advice that will help you in the future. If you change now, work on all of the things that made your wife unhappy. Do it not only for her, but for yourself. If it's too late to show her a change , and get her back. Then at least you will have made this change for your child, and hopefully your future partner in life. Good luck...:)
2006-06-29 14:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I can feel your pain my friend. I am going through the same lonely pain that you are. Just 6 weeks ago my wife said that she did not love me anymore after 11 years. I have tried everything to get her back. Flowers, jewelry, promises, abosolutly everything. But I found out that the harder I tried to get her back the more she pulled away. It is a tough reality to face that you have absolutly no control over someone you love so much. You feel that if you try hard enough you can touch some place in their heart that will make them want you back. Unfortunatly that is not reality. Reality is that you have to let her go and work on yourself now. The hope of getting her back will only keep you from being able to move on and make yourself a stonger person. You need to become a better person for you, not her. Look in the mirror and ask yourself if you have reached your full potential, hell you might not even like yourself so much right now. You cannot let guilt and regret drag you down. You have no control over your past or her future, all you can control is your future. So do the best you can in that regard and the rest will work itself out. I am sure you have heard similar advice, and I am sure you have even tried telling yourself some of these things. A problem I seem to have is getting my heart to belive the things my mind is telling it. The trick is actually lifting your chin up taking a few deep breaths and doing it. One thing to remember is that right now there are thousands of people feeling the same pain that you are. You are not alone in your painful journey, hell I am right there with you. I am sure you get no sleep, feel upset constantly, have that empty feeling inside, and feel totally desperate. You and I have a mountain to climb, and the longer we sit at the bottom scared to climb the longer it will take to get to the top. We might even just spend the rest of our days looking up from the bottom. Talk to people who have been there they will tell you the climb is worth it. If you get feeling down email me and I will be glad to share some of my experiences with you. Good luck.
2006-06-29 22:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by Scott B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband had a drinking problem and i told him it's either me and the kids are it's his alcohol... He choose his family..he is 2 years sober now and it was wonderful... get sober.. get yourself straight and heading in the right direction before you worry about getting her back..I know it's tough but you are no good to her, yourself, and the baby the way you are now..
no matter what happens between you and her you are going to be a father.. do it for yourself and your baby!! there are support groups out there (AA) if you can't do it on your own then seek help from others, you have already taken the first step and that is you posted this question...Good Luck!!!
2006-06-29 21:28:44 · answer #3 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
funny thats exactly what happened to me I chose the booze though. when I finally woke up one morning in jail it made me change my mind but by then it was too late I tried everything to get her back but no luck. Now I have a three year old that I have seen only once. No meeting is going to help you they make you wanna drink more. You have to wake up yourself and learn your limits.
2006-06-29 21:30:33 · answer #4 · answered by bobloyed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bummer. Tie another one on. You could stop drinking. Try and fix yourself so that you can go on with life. Be the best you can. Believe it, and see that the world has more to offer.
2006-06-29 21:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by M2J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa...I just got a little scared. You sound just like my ex husband. Get help for your alcoholism NOW. If you clean up your act and can provide her and you child with a safe comfortable life...you will win her back. My ex never could lose the bottle...instead he lost his wife and children.
2006-06-29 21:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the advice of a recovering addict the first pearson you need to learn to love is you. You are self-destructing and until you can deal with life sober you want be good for anyone.
2006-06-29 21:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by kristin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT HURT THE OTHER GUY!!! GO TO CLASSES TO HELP U STOP DRINKING AND THEN CALKL HER OR GO TO WHERE SHE IS AND SURPRISE HER WITH SOMETHING REALLY NICE IF U NEED MORE HELP U CAN E-MAIL ME AT spikegurl657@yahoo.com
2006-06-29 21:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop drinking without her then go to her and ask for chance.
2006-06-29 21:18:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do what you have to do to get better, then you try to get her back. hopefully she will see that you mean buisness(sp).
2006-06-29 21:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋