for men with kids.....?

Question

wat would you do or wat would you say if you caught your 12-year-old boy masturbating? would you say or do something differently if he were older, say 16 or 17 (maybe cuz he's been masturbating longer)?

plz do not answer with stupid answers or criticisms....this is just out of curiosity. i am no perv or pedofile so plz do not harass me with your stupidities.

i dont have kids. im quite young....this is just me wondering from a parents point of view.

Answer 1

If I happen to catch my 12 year old son masturbating. I would excuse my self and apologize for interrupting his privacy and leave immediately so he could compose himself from being embarrassed. Later I would ask to talk with him to let him know that masturbation is okay and that all men do it. That it is a form of personal sex called solo sex or single sex and should be done in private and kept personal. I would then ask him a few questions to see if he had all the correct information and if not would make sure that he knows how with out hurting himself, knows how to clean up, and knows how to keep it private and personal. I would then assure him that as an adult I would not try to invade his privacy and that I hope he would respect mine. And that we will need to talk about other aspects of sex as the need arises.

Answer 2

I am a single Dad, and although I have not "caught" my 15 year old son (and I hope I don't as it could be very embarrassing for both), it is normal, and I have always told him so. I wouldn't say anything different, as some kids mature earlier that others. That's when I started, as I was interested in girls even earlier than that. Tell him it is normal and OK, but not to do it in public, and use a tissue or something to catch his emissions so as not to make a mess. The most important thing is not to shame him for this, as it could effect his development in the future. Reassure him it is OK, and you are not mad at him.

Answer 3

If your parents are not uptight, they would immediately apologize and leave the room, say nothing more about the incident. NEXT TIME they would learn to knock.

If your parents were like most parents, they would rain down on you with all kinds of hurtful and stupid things, telling you that you are going straight to hell!

My parents were suspicious of everyone. They never knocked, they ALWAYS knew that they would catch me doing something wrong. THAT stopped when I got married and moved out. THANK HEAVENS!

Answer 4

Basically a dad or a mom will let the child know it,when the age grow.Just normal thing for every human to masturbate. I'm been
told with this issue before,remember my mom just asked me to
take shower with her.And from that,my mom just "talk" to me all
this.There are no embarrassing at all with the naked body.

Answer 5

if you walked in on him by accident, just explain that it's OK to do in private- there's really no proven ill-effects when not done to excess. if however you're seeing him do it out in the open, that's a different story. by age 12 he should understand what's acceptable public behavior, and he should be advised accordingly. however, i think if your kid is whacking off in public, you probably have other pressing concerns you might need to address.

Answer 6

well i think if u c him doing that just let it go im a girl but a boy grows into a man before the blink of ur eyes and u cant band him from doing it his hormones are just kicking in

Answer 7

nothing...apologise and leave the room...pick another day perhaps to talk about the birds and the bees...make sure not to make a big deal of his masturbation....

Answer 8

I would say sorry dude, excuse me and walk away.

Answer 9

AJ, I think you need to get a life.