If he's got a problem with you chatting online, then stop, even if you don't see a problem with it. If it's the only thing you like to do when he's not around, and you stop doing it to please him, that should mean something to him. I'm going through a similar situation with my new bf of 2 months. I used to cyber a lot and sometimes on cam. When he found out I kept on doing it after we got together (and had a major problem with it) I stopped chatting about sex with guys. He still didn't trust me that I talked about mundane things with guys (I don't get along with girls either) I stopped chatting completely. You need to find another hobby, girl. Good luck!
P.S. This of course, will only solve your first problem, but if you stop talking to guys, he may gain more trust in you and you would fight less often and less severe. Personally, any guy who hits me would only do it once, because after that, I'd be gone. 2 months or 11 years, doesn't matter!
2006-06-29 15:04:56
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answered by ? 2
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First off, the "fist to fist" fighting isn't cool at all. I don't think a man should ever hit a woman... unless she has a gun or something... As far as your question is concerned, it would be best if you could convince him to go to counselling with you. Why does it have to be guys? I know that a lot of girls prefer guys because they act differently, but there are some really down-to-earth girls too. Maybe if you mix it up a little, he won't get upset? Make sure for your own sake that you aren't looking to these men for self-confirmation, because if you need to do that, you need to do some fixing with your marriage, but that's what the counselling would do. Make sure if you are being physically abused that it stops. Good luck to you.
2006-06-29 21:14:01
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answered by BillyBoy 2
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Get out of the chat rooms and try doing something fun together that you both like--if you want to keep him-talking to guys all night wont do it--I agree it sounds doomed--also sounds like hes had the goods from a youngin long enough--maybe best to let the chips fall since you cant be faithful--was 27 with a 15 year old --you both might have issues especially fist fighting--that leaves scars that wont go away--enough out of me ltr good luck
2006-06-29 21:20:56
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answered by RacerXXX S 1
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You have to have respect not only for your husband, but for yourself. Those other guys will never respect you and will still continue to screw you. Now if your husband is all that, then treat him as such. You are messing up a good thing up and another woman will come along to handle him the way you should have. While you are getting screwed. Getting physical is not the answer either. Get some marriage counseling from God.
Love Ya!
2006-06-29 21:21:55
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answered by Anonymous
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You have already ruined your marriage, you know that don't you? somewhere inside of you it says it's over, you are just hanging on till the bbd comes along, instead of trying to build trust back with your husband , you enjoy seeing him sweat. he probably isn't a cheater and you are comfortable that you don't have to worry about him doing to you what you are doing to him. and maybe you don't , but the next guy that comes along may be a bigger a'sshole than you, and give you a taste of your own medicine. I have no doubt when your husband finally has enuf of your crap, you will wish it was back the way it use to be. but it never will be, that's one of the problems with older guys and gurls as young as you were, he isn't your husband, he is your father and you like to cheat to rebel, just like a kid, you want him to try and keep you in line. he isn't your father, he is your husband and you have hurt his heart very badly, maybe when you were 15 or 16 it would have been ok to act like he was your keeper, but you are way too old for that now. like I said, it's pretty much a done deal at this point, all that's left are the goodbyes. may as well hurry and get them over with so you can get on with your life.
2006-06-29 21:29:03
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answered by Anonymous
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Sorry, but I wouldn't trust you either. You haven't given him and reason to trust you. I'd say that your marriage is doomed. Even though you say you don't want those other guys, you know deep down you really do. That's a pretty big age difference. He's getting to be an old fart and your still a young pup. The long and short of it all...get help. Counseling.
2006-06-29 21:10:55
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answered by jdimmitt22 2
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Spending time on the Internet with other men is emotional unfaithfulness, almost as bad as sexual unfaithfulness. You make your husband feel inadequate and it is humiliating. How would you like it if he did the same with other women?
But even more serious is your physical violence to each other. You must urgently get counseling or split. There is no doubt about that.
2006-06-29 22:04:49
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answered by Anonymous
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You can't blame him for not really trusting you on the internet, given the history here. You might want to look into better hobbies, something that won't raise his suspicions so much. You should probably look into going to anger management classes together too.
2006-06-29 21:12:38
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answered by blueskies7890 3
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wow...... life goes on after a divorce..believe me..... you need one. what a frickin mess you live in..... you need to get a job, move into your own place and get a fresh start in life. leave this wrecked azz marriage behind and be single for awhile...get to know yourself. then date after some time perhaps.... you and him need to remain friends for the kids and stop causing everyone( kids too) the pain..you can never repair the trust in a million years.... your a cheater and hes a sorry guy who wont dump you..... good luck.
2006-06-29 21:12:33
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answered by pinksgirlfriend 5
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sounds like you need to look at how you would feel if he was doing that to you, your married what do you need another mans attention and companioship for? you have your husband to talk to, i think hes right you dont need men calling the house for you and you shouldnt be talking with them on the phone, thats being disrespectful to your husband! i wouldnt put up with my spouse talking to any female on the phone other than family
2006-06-29 21:13:06
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answered by MikesLilMama 3
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