why can't i find someone, yet I am in shape, with 3 academic degrees and I speak 4 languages?

Answer 1

Because you are looking. Be patient and wait for the right one to come to you. When the student is ready the teacher will appear.
Same concept, when you are ready, your soul mate will appear.

Answer 2

First of all don't listen to people who say "it's not your time yet." If you want something you have to go out and get it. You can't live life passively, waiting for things to fall in your lap.

You're saying you are easy on the eyes, and smart. So, as you have figured out already, those are not the only qualities needed to "bag" a chick. Look at some of the guys that are getting lots of action. What's the common denominator with most of those guys? It's like any other game. The ones that have particular experience and knowledge with that thing are better at it than someone with perhaps higher IQ, but just not skilled at that game yet.

And, because you are smart, you probably have pretty high standards, and when you go for the real "hotties", then you are up against some big league "players." This is a conundrum faced by many guys. Yes, you have to have the attributes that women are looking for that look good on a resume, but you also have to know how to be good at the game. Just because you are holding the best cards doesn't mean you will win.

Answer 3

Maybe it's got something to do with some aspect of your personality, maybe it's that you're not trying hard enough or looking in the right places, or maybe it's just not the right time. I was always told not to go chasing after love...just to go about my life and keep doing what I enjoy doing, and love would find me. I too am a really good person, educated, employed, fun, very active, have many talents and excellent qualities, have a lot of friends, etc. but haven't found the right person yet. In the course of my life I've been married and have had several relationships, but have yet to meet the man who is capable of appreciating me and treating me as I deserve to be treated.

Answer 4

Finding someone is more about blending personalities than comparing the academic and physical aptitude of each other. Example there is no accounting for two people sharing the same sense of humor.Yet being tuned in to each others sense of humor one can make the other laugh and laughter is great medicine !

Answer 5

fortitudinousskeptic, there is nothing wrong to desire a man who is tall, with a sense of humor and the means to support himself. We, woman, are a bit tired of all the guys who are more then capable of living on their own yet still live at home with mommy and daddy. Oh, and I'm typing this with my fiancee right next to me and he agrees. A word of advise from my fiancee, "Stop driving the pinto and maybe chicks will start looking your way".

But to answer your question, asker, I don't know why. Do you go to places to meet woman? How do you behave around them? Do you get the courage to ask them out? I wouldn't worry, there's someone for everyone just date and have a good time until you do find the right one!!!!

Answer 6

Because women could care less about a nice guy with a good education today. Here is what women want in a man:

Tall
Funny
High Income
Owns his own house

Bonus points if you're "hung".
Look, dude, I'm in the same position you are. I'm not trying to be a smartass. I'm just telling you the truth. They're not interested in guys like you and me unless they need a stepdaddy for their kids.

Answer 7

They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Yep you may be in shape but it's not as important as what's inside.

Just be yourself and try not to impress too much with all the degrees. You're looking for a mate not potential job offer!

Answer 8

There could be plenty of reasons and answers to why you haven't found someone. These could be reasons and answers: It's not your time to be with someone yet, your not putting yourself out there, you have to pick a certain person, your not active, you don't use what you know to your fullest ability, you don't make yourself available. Now which one is it if any.

Answer 9

Just be yourself. The "right" girl won't care if you have 6000 degrees or speak every language on the planet. Just be your sweet loveable self and you will find her.

Answer 10

sounds to me like you are trying WAY too hard. just forget about your degrees and your languages, relax and try to act yourself. sometimes the more you pay attention to your friends and having fun, the more women are attracted because you arent just sitting there staring at them.

women like a man with direction, but not someone who focuses completely on them and has their tongue laying on the ground the whole time.

be yourself bro, and next time you see someone you are interested in, just go up to her and BS with her. what do you have to lose?

Answer 11

that's what you are, and what you do...

but WHO are you?

perhaps you are giving off the vibe, that you can do it all yourself,
that doesn't necessarily generate an aura of compatibility

ya gotta WANT to get caught!!!
don't internalize the need to be with someone, it makes you more un-approachable...

start with a warm SMILE, see how far that takes you!, and look someone in the eyes.....let them know, with non verbal communication...that your on the market....and you want caught!