Just because you have a bad past, doesn't mean your whole life revolves around it.
2006-06-29 13:34:24 · 13 answers · asked by disfunkshunaldork 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Depending on how well your 'present' is going, you will either recall your past for fond memories or summon it to keep you company in your misery. Our past is the only real masure of who we are and how well we are doing / accomplishing. How we fit in. Some of us just move ahead regardless of what we are getting done and who we get to know. Others of us need our past as a common and constant point of reference before we dare to move on. But if we error, we will be prone to repeat. So try not to dwell. Learn from our mistakes and recall our victories and good times.
2006-06-29 13:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by michael g 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Heart scars are difficult or eradicate at any age. It sometimes takes years of therapy for healing to take place. Some people never achieve it.
Also, certain personality types are more prone than others to dwell on the past.
2006-06-29 13:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by freedomnow1950 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because experience is the best teacher and we can draw valuable life lessons from the past. however, you should never allow your past, however bad it was, to define you and make your future choices for you. we are all a work-in-progress and everyday is an opportunity to make better experiences than the previous ones.
2006-06-29 13:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by Rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regret can really eat at you. Probably those people have not found a way to live with what happened and let go of the regret, so they carry it around.
Dated a guy like that about 6 years ago. i tried to get him to consider counselling, but he "didn't need it" -- yeah, okay, carry that crap around, that's really helpful! We ended up breaking up anyway.
2006-06-29 13:38:05 · answer #4 · answered by alter_tygo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true, but most people feel there are different choices they could have made or see a point in their life if they had taken a different path, they wouldn't be where they are at today. these people are usually unhappy withhow their life has turned out.
the way I see it is that my past has shaped me into the perso n I am today~~ may not be liked by all, but liked by myself & those that count to me
2006-06-29 13:37:12 · answer #5 · answered by kat4use 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to really let go of the past if you have really been hurt badlly.some people have a problelm with trust and because of that they find it hard to talk about it and deal with the past.you should not look back,but everyone now and again look back,its what you make of the future that can chang everything !!!
2006-06-29 13:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by nicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are your past. You relive it in your present and will relive it in your future unless you swear today that you won't, but be forewarned that the future is near and humans are always subjected to repeating their past.
2006-06-29 13:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by moved 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guilt...hard to get our of your head things you feel sorry for and can't correct. Unfulfilled wishes and hopes, maybe a person feels life was better they they wish to get that back, people they may miss... All kinds of reasons.
2006-06-29 13:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by Indigo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People love misery ... pity parties are all the rage. They can't seem to accept their life, so they make it one long string of WOE IS ME events. Dysfunctional . . .
2006-06-29 13:39:18 · answer #9 · answered by i_troll_therefore_i_am 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heredity and the genes' forces make us do that. We can not get away from these two inherent parts of us
2006-06-29 13:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by hasanmuizudin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋