im confused! please help me?
2006-06-29 13:31:57 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Firstly, accept yourself for who you are, NOT what you "should" be. There's absolutely NOTHING wrong with being a lesbian, unless you believe it yourself. Do some soul searching before you come out to your parents, because you want to be SURE you're one instead of finding out later on that you really weren't.
If you discover that you are one, talk to your parents or someone you can trust. They'll help you work it all out. But above all, BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. And ignore all the judgmental folks you'll meet along the way. Some won't want to see PDAs, but most of us don't mind. Keep that in mind. (Ignore the perverts as well. They've got nothing better to do than to try to bash your self esteem to bits.)
Good luck. :)
2006-06-29 13:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by SingingStar7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really didn't leave us much to work with. :P
If you're actually "confused", give it time. Maybe you are, maybe you aren't. Whatever. There are counselors who can help you with the "maybe" phase, and some of the stuff shortly after that.
If you are and you don't want to be, that's a longer issue. First of all, we've all been there and done that, and come out the other end happier in the long run. That having been said, YES, there is such a thing as ex-gay ministries. NO, they will never make the feelings you have go away. They're modelled to adjust behavior, and that's it.
2006-07-02 03:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure whether or not you are a lesbian, rememeber that A) it's no one's business but yours, and B) sometimes it takes a long time to really figure out what you want and need, emotionally and sexually. If you are confused or questioning, you are not alone!
The best thing to do is join or form a support group of people of your approximate age going throught the same thing. This works best with friends, or at least people in your area, but if this is not feasible, you can try to meet people online - very carefully!
If you ever need to someone to talk to, feel free to contact me - I promise I'm not a psycho.
Have a pleasant day!
2006-06-29 13:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by oldwhatshername 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be confused when you want to try your wings with the same sex? Some young folks just want to try it to see if it is what they want - curiosity killed the cat! We all are made up of male/female, we all look at both sexes at some stage. Looking is ok. If you were a lesbian you would not want to go out with males or have any interest in them, females would be your only lifestyle, unless of course you had a foot in each camp. Try before you buy or please don't squeeze me until I'm yours? I don't think you are confused - maybe curious?
2006-06-29 14:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your girlfriend and make a sandwich of me is my first thoughts. I am not as appalled at you as you should be of me for thinking like a beast instead of a man. Perhaps thoughts, no actions from men made you this way. As I have overcome my first thoughts and do not think you need any forgiveness nor explain why you are what you are but you are asking so maybe your not. Maybe I am just a concious being and happiness is my ultimate goal so what makes me happy is right. Or if I am spirtual then how does this set with me. Maybe was your true question?
2006-06-29 13:40:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a lesbian trap in a male body and I know what to do! A true lesbian is never confused! Maybe you are bisexual.
2006-06-29 13:35:31 · answer #6 · answered by Retarded Dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to soul search find an older lesbian to help you talk through your feelings, that's what I did. Then I started by slowly indroducing myself to "out" people. I looked a little more at what their sexuality had to do with how they lived, and it doesn't. The hardest part is coming to terms with your heart.
2006-06-29 13:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by runningwhilescreeming 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age....I'd say do what feels comfortable. Everyone is open to it now. So if you aren't sure let someone or a close friend know. If you are sure let someone know also. You'll feel relieved, and then go live life. If somone has a problem with it, remember, they have a problem with it. You should just go on and enjoy life as you know it.
2006-06-29 13:40:52 · answer #8 · answered by Jerry S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use your heart and not your eyes. Experiment and find a gf or just date around. It is okay to have sentiments towards a woman. It is possible to have a "girl crush" and not have any lesbian or bisexual intentions. I am bisexual and have a gf, so I know how you may feel.
2006-06-29 15:03:18 · answer #9 · answered by Shaneka D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be with other women in a relationship,just like a man and a woman. You can either let everyone know or stay in the closet,all up to you! You will figure it out no one can tell you how if you truly are,it will come from within your heart.
2006-06-29 13:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by single mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋