What to do?

Question

My fiancee has been working a lot of hours lately, and been neglecting me. I don't want to think he is cheating on me. He is usually really loving and wants to be around me and lately he hasn't been wanting to be around me. What is going on? What can I do?

Answer 1

You should talk to him first. If you really think he is cheating then you should start investigating. Nevermind what people say. Men can be dogs (I'm not saying yours is), but do what ever you have to do to find out. When he says he is at work late, call him there (make sure he's really there). Check his cell phone, his pockets, whatever it takes. You don't want to jump the broom and regret it later. But you know your man, you will also have to use your sixth sense that women have.

Good luck, I truly wish you the best

Answer 2

At a very fundamental level a man gets his sense of self esteem primarily from two different places: his career and sex. Each represents success... the first: success in the competition for survival; the second: success in the competition for procreation. He measures himself by these two things. Always. Always.
Devoting time and energy to his career is something he will do. Devoting time and energy to sex is something he will also do.

If he's working a lot of hours he wants to find comfort and stress relief when he's not. He can sense your concern and fears, etc., which will only drive him further away. He needs peace and relaxation with you. He doesn't need to spend more time and energy catering to your insecurities.

If what you're doing isn't working, do something different. If he seems to have lost interest, rekindle it. Insead of feeling insecure and afraid he's cheating, put all that on the back burner. For just one night, just once, take him by the hand, lead him to bed and scratch every itch he has, without thought to yourself. Just once, give him everything without demanding or expecting in return. If he's not interested in that... if he doesn't respond with similar treatment in return... then you've lost.

Answer 3

You need to talk to him about it. We don't know either one of you, so can't be of much help. Communicate, communicate, communicate...if you don't have that as part of your relationship foundation, then it's likely to topple eventually.

Answer 4

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