2006-06-29 13:07:47 · 33 answers · asked by jingles 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why do they not listen
2006-06-29 13:09:10 · update #1
You should only have to tell them once. If you've broken up w/ them, they should be respectful of your decision. My bf was. He didn't even try to get back together w/ me. It's been 2 wks now :D
If they call you & you don't answer, they should get the hint that you were serious. After all, "actions speak louder than words."
I broke up w/ my bf 4x. Even after the 4th time my bf knew that I was serious. He's even considering moving fr this town/city.
Also, you shouldn't have to explain WHY. Just say, "It's not working for me." If you said, "Cuz you do this too much." Then if they "promise" not to do it again, then it may be easier to take them back. Stick to your guns & have no contact w/ them whatsoever !!!
2006-06-29 13:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people have skin like orange peel, the more they cling on, the more it repels you, an amicable break up turns into hatred for the person you left. ONCE should be enough if no games have been played, like coming and going frequently, if the message is loud and clear, state you position loud and clear, then ignore them until they can accept, cruel to be kind my friend, never give hope or offer what you cannot give
2006-06-29 21:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by littlestarr02 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Twice. The number of times is 2. The first time you sit down and give it to him/her straight out no questions about it. Just be done with it. The second time is with a restraining order. Hopefully, that would be sufficient enough of a message.
2006-06-29 13:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by jkcmr2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell them at least um 4 times before I file sexual harrassment.
They like you so why would they listen. Maybe your not giving a good enough reason.
See Movie: Hitch
2006-06-29 13:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by blondieinlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't listen because...
a) they don't believe you;
b) they don't want to believe you;
c) they believe you, but also believe that with persistence, they can convince you to change your mind.
Don't waste your time trying to figure out which, and don't waste your time trying to convince them you "really mean it" -- just cut 'em off. Don't accept their phone calls, don't continue conversations with them (say "no offense, but I have no interest in talking to you" and walk away), don't give them any reason to think you're just playing hard to get -- just treat 'em like strangers.
That doesn't mean they won't get the message, but you've tried being up front and honest, and it didn't work. If they won't respect your rejection, there's no need for you to allow them to prolong the process -- shut 'em down.
2006-06-29 13:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why they don't listen. Maybe because they love you?
I have a similar problem. I feel I made the wrong choice 37 years ago. 3 lovely kids later, what do you say? How do you say it in a way that isn't hurtful?
2006-06-29 13:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only once. A proper explaination must be given. The other person make not like it but they do have to accept it. Just don't reply if they continue asking the same question. Keep peaceful about it, don't let tension build.
2006-06-29 13:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really should only have to tell them once and something is wrong with the person if you have to tell them more than once. You should say it once and get the point across really clear but without hurting that person's feelings, if you know what I mean.
2006-06-29 13:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by delawaregirl83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Tiger Lilly. Sometimes a person isn't so secure in themselves and they are looking feverishly for that secuirty in (you). They picture them with you......forever... they cannot see the otherside....yours......I feel this is why some marriages are not happy. This person SO persisits, and if the female isn't (or male) strong enough to say no and MEAN it, then they feel obligated to "end up" with less then they really want or deserve.......hope all works out!
2006-06-29 13:16:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooohhhhh! That resonates with me and I send supportive vibes.
It is si hard to tell smeone you don't want to be with them and when they do not hear - it is awful.
If ou really mean it (and I guess you do) you have to show them 24-7 that you mean it.
No contact. No phone call, no texts. Avoid them!
Finally - they will get the message.
2006-06-29 13:14:04 · answer #10 · answered by Suzita 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋