why am I so afraid my boyfriend will cheat?

Question

My bf & I have been together for almost a yr & a half. We live together, we both work full time & he works overtime, as a sales he has to work around his client schedule, so we don't really get to spend much time except 1-2hrs after work. No daytime activities since we never have the same days off. We were having alil trouble, daily arguments which most of them I start due to mood swings. I always felt lonely.. We talked all our problems out, apoligized, compromised, things are going well. For some reason though, I always seem to think hes cheating. I know for a fact he won't cheat, hes not that type& he doesnt do anything to show hes cheating(bsides him working ot, but hes in the process of getting promoted) we have pretty much the same group of friends. When hes at work, I know hes at work, & he comes home straight after. When we go out w/friends, we go out together. When he go dinner w/co-workers, he brings me along. So I don't know why I'm being so insecure. Is something wrong w/me

As to the questions.. He works with all guys at a dealership, and no I have never been cheated on..

Answer 1

no I sometimes fell the same with my girl. it is natural and you actually just need more time away from him. this way you will build that trust so necessary for a good relationship.

Answer 2

For one if he wants to cheat he will cheat. You really can't stop anyone from cheating. He has to go to work, or to the grocery store, you can't keep him in the house. Remember there are women everywhere. You just need to trust that he is not doing anything. Even if you feel that he is you still need to have that trust but ask him about it. In a nice way, don't just accuse him because before long he will if you accuse him falsely. Also you can go by what everyone else is doing. Yes a lot of men cheat but there are some good men out here...

Answer 3

Has he cheated in the past?

Have you been cheated on in the past?

Have you cheated? Or find someone else attractive?

Why don't you trust him?

Are you scarred he's cheating or is it intuition?

Have you met the people he works with?

Has he been paying less attention to you? or vice-versa...

Have you been spening a lot less time together than usual?

Suggest that you both get away for a few days or bard youselves in at home - spend some real quality time together- driving in a car doesn't count as quality or sleeping in the same bed.

Try something romantic.

See a psychic or just ask him . . . pay attention to his reactions . . .

If you have answered the following questions to yourself honestly that could give you some insight to you and maybe even ask him these questions.

If he left another woman for you it's possible that he could do the same to you.

If you are unsatisfied then tell him- maybe he doesn't realize how you feel.

Answer 4

Have you been cheated on before? Are there really interesting pretty women around him at work? Don't go looking for trouble when there isn't any, but also don't ignore signs that are obvious.

Answer 5

You need to be able to trust your boyfriend, or the relationship won't work. Mine isn't the type either, but I don't worry about it. Just relax and realize he's faithful and isn't gonna change, you're getting yourself all worked up over nothing.

Answer 6

Well,to tell the truth,suspicious people are usually the first to come the crime.Are you sure you wont cheat?

Answer 7

Call Cheaters the tv show, and have them follow him to find out. Or else just trust him.

Answer 8

omg..i'm the exact same way haha...if you get a good answer to this question let me know...because i hate to even ask other ppl stuff like that because then they'll doubt OUR relationship, when i know it's just ME.

i think (from what i can gather) that i'm confident w/ myself--in all other aspects that i CAN control, however...i trust absolutely nobody. i dont know what happened to me really to make me that way...but i dont trust other girls and then i know he wouldn' go along w/ it, but guys are so stupid, that by the time they figure out that a girl is flirting, its too late...i'm already mad that he'd let her even flirt. haha i feel like a crazy person sometimes....i always said i'd NEVER be that way...and he resents me sometimes for starting fights...but i'm a competitive girl i suppose...i just want to be at the top of all his lists...and maybe he believes that i am perfect for him...but i don't believe i'm ever good enough...no reason really...just i'm really hard on myself..... he's very passive when it comes to things from the past...if a girl flirts, he doesnt flirt back, but he'd just be like "no"...not, "no my g/f will kick your butt if you dont back off" haha...i just like to know that he will defend me when i cant defend myself.... (but that was in our earlier years)

maybe i'm just jealous that he gets to spend time w/ other ppl and not me...i dont know...i just miss him sometimes because he works so much. and i get upset because i feel like he "let it happen--working too much"....you know, lowering the relationship on the priority ladder.

my advice: try not to obsess...as hard as it is, work to better yourself when you feel that way....and its not really "him" thats the problem, it's your competitive side w/ girls in general. go see him at work during lunch and go visit dressed up all hott one day and let the other girls see you...

and if you think he's cheating and just dont wanna admit it...do some detective work...i know it sounds bad and psycho, but if it puts your supicians to rest, then its worth it....and it'll go away...and that wil improve your relationship...and you dont even have to lie, just be like "will you show me your email just to ease my mind since you have nothing to hide" --do it outta nowhere, when he doesnt have time to delete anything...

also, try to see who/where he works for....theres always a fear of the unknown--in many aspects of life

good luck to ya!
feel free to email me...

Answer 9

You may feel that he is cheating on you because so many people cheat on their partners.

Answer 10

if u think hes not cheating then why r u asking this question