how do u tell ur parents u had sex?

Question

I am still a virgin but when i choose to have sex how do i tell my parents?

Answer 1

As a mother of a 16-year-old girl, I can tell you that I really, really, really hope she'll wait until she gets married. I made the mistake of having sex before I got married and I still regret it (and I'm 36).

As a parent, if she were to have sex before marriage, I would hope that she knows she can talk to me. I love my daughter and no matter what she does I'm still going to love her.

The first thing to do is to just say, "Mom (or Dad), I have something to tell you." Then (whatever you do) don't say, "Don't get mad, okay?" because when you say that we get mad before we even know what you're going to say.

Then tell them; just the facts, no details and then tell them why you're telling them. What is it that you want from them? Do you want them to take you to Planned Parenthood for the pill? Do you want them to understand? If you know it will disappoint them are you looking for forgiveness?

When you tell them be sure to use words that aren't going to make it worse: no cursing, no swearing and, remember, no details. Unless your mother asks, and I feel confident she won't, don't share more than you need to.

Answer 2

You just tell them all parents understand that their children grow up and become men & women. Just make sure you use a form of birth control and your man wears a condom so that you don't get STD's. Also think about where you are in your life and weigh the pro's and cons and wait until you absolutely know for sure that you are ready for sex. Futhermore every parent is different. That's why I say that there is no correct way and its embarrassing no matter how you tell them especially if you come from a religious family and you were taught to act and think a certain way.

Answer 3

Don't. Not until you're married with children can you tell them that you've had sex as a teenager. Unless, of course, your parents are young and won't go crazy. But I wouldn't jump to saying it, I would tell them when the time is right.

Answer 4

I didn't tell my mom. The scary part was she just knew.

Maybe is best not to tell her or instead of not telling her you could talk to her about thinking about it.

Say "Hey mom, I was thinking about sex and I was wondering if you could help me out. Do you think I am ready? What is it that you think that I should know? I don't know when I want to, but I have been thinking about it and I would like to hear your advice. I think its best to ask ahead of time even when I don't know if it will be happening way down the line or soon. I would really like to know from you, because you are my mom and your point of view really matters to me"

If you approach her before you do it or before you think you are going to and explain to her that her opinion really matters then she will probably think you are smart enough and trust you more. Show that your smart and mature and eager to be safe!

Answer 5

You should sit them down, before you have sex, and talk to them about it. They may not like it that you are going to, but at least you will show them that you are mature enough to tell them. Before you tell them you should get some condoms, visit a Planned Parenthood, and look into birthcontrol. Also, you should research pregnancy and STD's (STI's) since condoms dont protect you from all of them! Good luck

Answer 6

Tell Them When The Time Is Right Sweetie

Answer 7

I think its very important, but it also depends on how old you are and what sort of relationship you have with your parents. If you have been in a relationship and they know the him and so on. You may be surprise by their reaction. My neices told their mother and she was understanding and talk about protection. Being honest and open is usually the best and it will only improve you relationship with your parents.

Answer 8

some ppl dont tell their parents they have sex. but its best to. i didnt tell my paretns but my boyfriend's mom did... and i really wish i would have because it would have been a lot better. and when you do become sexually active you need to be put on some kind of birthcontrol. depending on which parent you think will take it better do it when the both of you are com and tell them you need to talk to them about something. and just tell them, even if it does hurt them and make them upset in the end they will be happier knowing that you told them and are trying to protect yourself

Answer 9

Dear,please go to col ledge,get a job,get married.You'll feel better and so will your parents.Sex is a gift between two people who love each other so dearly that they married each other,sex is like a wedding gift saved special for him,no one else but the person whom you vowed to live with forever....Just a couple thoughts,think about them,please.

Answer 10

This is something personal for you. You really don't have to go tell your parents about it. Sooner or later they will get the picture that your sexually active. Just take care of yourself while having sex. You don't want to catch any deases or get pregnant.