I am in a relationship that I love the person but I feel so overwhelmed at times and I am scared that If I break up with him he will hurt me or have me hurt by someone else. What should I do ??
2006-06-29 12:49:17 · 18 answers · asked by Scared 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds that you do need to break up with him. Even though you love him... any relationship that causes you to fear for your safety is not a good one and you could get hurt IF you stay in the relationship.
You should do the breakup in a public place: mall, coffee shop or just any place that you are not alone and yes, the more people the better, plus have a friend, preferably a guy friend there; maybe sitting across the room to keep an eye out for you. This should be a friend he doesn't know.
Further, be prepared to get a restraining order from your local law enforcement if necessary. And do not travel alone at night for a few weeks and park in well lite areas...
Just think smart and be safe.... Now it is time to cut your loses, hold your head high, and take your life back.
2006-06-29 13:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by A Friend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, make sure you inform someone close to you like a family member or a friend about your situation with your boyfriend. Next, make sure you make living arrangements with someone in your intermediate family (that's in the event that you're living with this boyfriend) Then when you do in fact decide to break the "news" to him, be sure to have someone around (preferably a male whether it be your brother, cousin, a friend of the family, etc;) so when it happens so you'll not only have witnesses, but you'll feel a lot safer knowing someone is around that may protect you! Next is to go and file a restraining order at your local police department! This is optional but I'd do it if I were in your shoes! And the only thing you can do after that is stay away from him and move on with your life! If he comes near you or follows you after you break things off with him, call the police! I wish you well and good luck! Be strong! Stay motivated with whatever you choose to do positively in your life!
2006-06-29 13:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by kannon30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, being afraid is reason enough to break it off with him. If ya decide to break it off, just be honest, but compassionate. TELL him one of the reasons is that you're a bit scared of him. That'll put him in the mindset of equating his behavior with you breaking it off. Doing more of the same, is only gonna make you LESS likely to take him back, etc. I'd keep your guard up for awhile, and make sure you tell friends what's going on. They'll help protect you. (IF he does anything.) The only alternative, is continuing in a relationship based on intimidation. It'll ONLY get worse. Earlier the better, as there's less of an emotional stake for both. If he begins making threats, or anything along those lines, GO TO THE POLICE.. Even if they can't take action, they'll usually be willing to make extra patrols through your neighborhood. He'll get the hint.
2006-06-29 13:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have that strong of a sense of fear you definitely need to get out of this relationship. If he does threaten you when you break up with him make sure to inform the police, family, friends, and basically everybody you know. It would also be better if somebody else was there when you broke up with him so he can't hurt you. Do not let this man abuse you anymore, you do not deserve to live in fear.
2006-06-29 12:59:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a cop. If he hit you or threathened you before, make a report. It will be easy to get conditions for him to not approch you. If he doesn't respect them, he'll go straight in jail. If nothing happened so far, ask people to come with you to break up with him. They'll call 911 if something happens. Good luck.
2006-06-29 13:05:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing run for your life , if u are scared to death of him then u should call the police or family memebers , cause if u dont get out of there now , you will end up either in the hospital or 6 feel under ! so get out while u get and get help call police or family memebers or abuse hotline now !!!
2006-06-29 12:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with them and try and avoid all contact with them i dont think this person will hurt u they might just get the point if possible change ur number and move if its drastic!
2006-06-29 12:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has hurt you before then i advise you to have some one or something handy when breaking up with him just in case he decides to do something to you.
2006-06-29 12:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shouldnt be scared of someone u love. loving people should care for and nurture u. i say yeah u shold break up with him sue and become a millionare!!! lol
2006-06-29 12:52:09 · answer #9 · answered by rjekqlw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have people you care about around you when it happens and if it still seems threatening inform the authorities.
2006-06-29 12:51:43 · answer #10 · answered by toni s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋