My friend met this guy which she really like. She was at the club and she didn't even noticed that she got really drunk. Next thing she knew, she was in the bed with that guy. Next week she found out she was pregnant. She told me 2 days ago and she is really scared because she knows that the guy wouldn't want the baby. She is 15, and she doesn't know what to do, but she must tell her mother, but she is too scared to. She knows that they would be very dissapointed and wouldn't help her.
2006-06-29 12:42:06 · 18 answers · asked by Sweety 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well the first thing is, she is going to have to tell her sometime. Especially when she gets big, the secret will be out anyways. Might as well tell her while she can control the situation.
Secondly, she has to make sure to get her mom alone somewhere so it is just the two of them and away from anyone that can pass judgement. Her mother may be disappointed, but she may also sympathize with her if it is just the two of them. I don't know if her dad is around, but her mom will also be a great person to tell her dad and keep him under control.
Third, the girl needs to start doing some research on her options, find out the care she needs, setup some goals etc. If she goes and talks to her mom with a good head on her shoulders and a good plan, she can work on selling her mom on the idea that she might handle being a mother well. Again to drum up support.
Lastly, if her mother refuses to support her, she will need you more than ever as her friend. You might want to offer your help or get her other friends involved. Let her explore her own choices and only offer advice when she asks. Be ready to listen, a lot. She will need to vent on occassion, especially if her mom refuses to help her or disowns her.
Oh and on a side note, she should tell the father of the baby as well. Doesn't matter if he doesn't want it, by law she can garnish his wages or future earninges in child support. It is the price he pays for making a baby, especially in a bad situation like that.
Good luck to you both!
2006-06-29 12:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by Martyr2 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay... if she is 15 how did she get in the club. And, even if she did have sex with a guy in a club, she would not know a week later that she was pregnant. It takes at least two weeks, meaning if she is pregnant, the baby is not from the guy at the club. Either way, she still has to tell her mom. She needs to go to the doctor and get the baby good care... since at 15 she does not have her own insurance, she needs her mom to do this. On that note, she might be surprised. Her mom will be upset, and disapointed. As she should be. BUT she loves her. Parents can be suprisingly supportive when their kids least expect it. Rather she gets mad or not (and she will at first) she still can't do this on her own. For now, go to planned parenthood and get the pregnancy confirmed, also, she may want to get tested for stds... she obviously had unprotected sex.
2006-06-29 12:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by manderstwin1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend she needs to talk to her parents. They may be upset but I am sure they will have her best interest at heart. This is a hard time for her 15 is so young to have a baby. But she needs to go see a OB so she can make sure that her and the baby are healthy. Sometimes parents can surprise you we can be very understanding. I hope all goes well with your friend. Its nice if to try and help her.But this is something she needs to tell her parents as soon as possible for own well being. Tell her good luck.
2006-06-29 12:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by Neicee65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is afraid to tell her parents. She should find an adult that she can trust and tell them what happened. Maybe the adult she can trust can talk to her parents with her or alone. Her parents may be dissapointed, but at least they will be aware of what is going on. The parents should know, because they will be able to help her. I have dealt with a situation similar to this one and the young girl was about 13 years old. I was able to talk to her parents and they came up with a plan to help her.
2006-06-29 15:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by jesusgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a thing called "maternal instinct" and no matter how sure she is that her parents won't help her, she may be surprised to find that her mom will only care about helping her.
Encourage your friend to go to her mom and say, "Mom, I have something to tell you." If she can get those words out of her mouth then her mom should sense how serious the conversation is and will probably surprise her by being patient and loving.
I'll be praying for your friend. God bless!
2006-06-29 12:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by anastasia4470 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to tell your mom is to just be straight forward. Believe it or not, people really do want you to be totally honest with them. Simply explain your situation and trust that things will work out. Keeping secrets within yourself is not good for you or your unborn baby. Get it out now, and work through it. You need your mom and the rest of your family especially right now.
2006-06-29 12:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by ms floyd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she needs to grow up and tell her parents. If she is adult enough to have sex then she should be adult enough to talk to her parents about it. I was 17 when I got pregnant with my first. I told my mom the week I found out thinking she would kick me out of the house..but she didn't...I was also in a relationship with my son's father (now husband) for a year when I got pregnant...but suprisingly she didn't kick me out but helped us out a lot. Sometimes parents suprise you. If she doesn't want the baby tell her to consider adoption...But she needs to get over her fears and talk to her parents about it.
2006-06-29 12:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by ktpb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is scared to tell her mom she should tell her mom she was raped. She was raped from what you described. It is illegal if a club served her alcohol. Go to the police and get the club charged for underage drinking and charge the man for rape if he is over 18. Her mom wont be upset if it wasnt her fault, most likely, which it sounds like it wasnt her fault.
2006-06-29 14:25:53 · answer #8 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to just tell the person less dominant. they wont do anything cause they care much more about her health. So they will do everything for her to be healthy. that means maybe an abortion or taking care of her when she is pregnant. But they are her parents and they love her.
2006-06-29 12:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by Hili 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the h**l was a 15 year old doing at a club drinking?
2006-06-29 12:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by tpuahlekcip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋