We just got married in March and we have hardly had anytime for each other. we live with his parents,and he works the graveyard shift so basically when I'm working he is asleep and when I'm asleep he is working. Well he is always wanting to go hang out with the guys every single weekend! What is it with him?
2006-06-29 12:14:49 · 10 answers · asked by tx80sgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes he wanted to be married to me.
2006-06-29 12:21:37 · update #1
We are trying to move out of the parents house but he never wants to save the money to do it cause he spends it all on guns and fishing equipment. I have talked to him 100 times about this.
2006-06-29 12:26:49 · update #2
Put your foot down honey. You are making money just as well as he, and he seems to think he is the ultimate decider here. Im curious to know if these guy friends of his are single. Most married men should really not hang around with them. Single guys think of one thing. Getting hooked up with chicks. And there's your husband right along with them. Give him an ultimatum. Tell him you are putting aside your money to get a place and that you will leave with or without him. And remind him that you did not marry him to clean and cook and sit around on the weekends while he is out having so much fun with the boys and spending all the money to do it. Maybe you should start finding some girls to hang with on the weekends too and show a little indifference in what he does, and it would get him to thinking about you being gone and out having some fun. Or better yet, just be gone when he is around. Sure is an attention grabber.
I have a feeling he is being teased from some of these guys (wonderful friends huh) about being whipped and has made it a point, to his stupid way of thinking, to try and make it look like he's not. Maybe you could discuss some of these things with his parents and see if they could possibly have a talk with him about his lack of responsibility. What you need here is a little display of tough love. Let him know you are worthy, and deserving of some respect.
2006-06-29 13:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by dizzyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that he is not ready to be married, and most likely regrets it. The more he stays out,the easier it will be for him to mess around on you.He probably wishes he still was a bachelor. You should never mix more than one family. It does not work! As you will feel the need to please everybody and do everything as perfect as you can so you don't upset the household. When you marry, it is a commitment to be with one another,not just when you feel like it. You should look into having your marriage annuled if you are not happy. Moving in with his parents or with anyone for that matter,should have been a clue that he was not mature and responsible enough to take care of you as his wife.
2006-06-29 12:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Maybe he is getting way too used to being with the guys as he works with them and then hangs out with them on the weekends.
2. He's not to smart.
3. He has come out of the closet.
4. The guys give him a hard time about being married and he isn't strong enough to tell them to go to hell.
5. Try using your feminine wiles to seduce him on the weekends. If that don't work he is either stupid or gay.
2006-06-29 12:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by inlitnme2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st problem: He lives with his parents. You 2 need to get your own place.
Secondly, if he doesn't want to spend any of his free time with you, there's another problem. Seek marriage counseling before it's too late, and TALK TO HIM about what's bothering you. If he truly loves you and cares, he'll make some changes, like work different hours, or spend lees time with the boys and more with his eternal partner.
2006-06-29 12:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by Matt B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's is so hard on any marriage may he or you need change your shift and move out of mommas and get your own place your relationship is not gonna have the chance to grow
if you don't put forth any effort into it...marriage takes allot of work on both sides let him know how he makes you feel that hes not spending any time with you communication trust and romance is the key to any marriage
2006-06-29 12:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by trouble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. If you just got married it is a big change for both of you. Start the communication off right. Talk to him about your feelings. Tell him you want time alone with him and see what he says. Ask to go with him and his friends, or say one night he goes with them and vice versa, or every other weekend.
2006-06-29 12:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried asking him this question?Maybe you could ask him to spend more time with you,or even ask him to get out some where with you,he could just be trying to get out of the house away from the parents.
2006-06-29 12:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by rosie w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still living in the "im mom and dads kid" mode.
He isn't living in the "Wow, Im married now." mode.
Part of marriage will consist of your suggestions, guidance, and help for your future goals. You both will have raise each other up.
Study on marriage and men. Family Life has great information on men, marriage, and the whole family deal.
2006-06-29 12:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a bit like a guy who realy did not want to get married. Did he do it just for you? Or pressure from his parents? Or someone else. He is acting very single-like in my view.
2006-06-29 12:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes a man? he will want boy time...but you have to make him realize that you didnt get married to be alone....ask him what his priorities are...sure he can go out with his boys sometimes but what about you?? you should be his first priority
2006-06-29 12:21:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋