my garnd daughter said that her daddy pinched herr tom toms.?

Question

My granddaughter told me her daddy pinched her tom toms and I asked her what that was and she said her pee pee. How should I handle this?

She is only 3 years old.

I told her mom and she said she wanted to talk to her daughters daddy about it and I told her not to say anything until she talks to her daughter first because I am afraid he would take it out on the baby. You don't want to make acusations on something that might not have happened but I told her not to send her back over to his house untill she knows for sure what happened.

Answer 1

First, talk further with your grand daughter, in a way so as not to lead her to any particular answer, and find out the context (was he wiping her bottom after using the bathroom? bathing her? checking her for an infection? Were they innocently wrestling? Were they playing? Was it on a swing or slide - accidentally? etc.). Also ask her where the term "tom tom" came from.

If you feel there is a potential problem after this, then tke her to a doctor for an exam, or contact childrens services. (Doctor will contact childrens services himself if upon examination he feels it is warranted.)

Good luck.

Answer 2

Believe your grandchild. Like the saying goes "out of the mouth of babes" What does a 3 year old know about someone touching her privates? She did'nt just make that up. Confront, not the dad, but the mother. Then report him.

Answer 3

ASK HER AGAIN AND TRY TO GET HER TO TELL YOU MORE BEFORE YOU CAN DO ANYTHING..IF SHE CAN TELL YOU MORE OF WHAT HE MAY HAVE DONE TO HER....TRY TO MAKE SURE SHE IS TELLING YOU EVERYTHING..DO MAKE HERE AFRAID TO TELL YOU AND GOD I HOPE ISN'T AFRAID OF HIM IF HE REALLY DID SOMETHING LIKE THAT..YOUR NEXT STEP IS TO CONTACT SOMEONE ABOUT THIS AND HAVE THAT MANS #@%$# IN THE WRINGER FOR A LONG TIME..IF THAT HAPPENED TO HER SHE WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT AND WHEN SHE'S OLD ENOUGH TO UNDERSTAND WHAT'S BEING SAID AROUND HER, IT WILL BE HARD ON HER TO REALLY KNOW WHAT THAT BASTARD DID TO HER...PEOPLE MEN OR WOMEN LIKE THAT SHOULD BE PUT IN JAIL AND STAY THERE FOR EVER..THERE IS A GUY WHERE I LIVE THAT IS NOT SUPPOSE TO BE AROUND HIS KIDS BUT HE IS HERE EVERYDAY AND THE MOTHER LETS IT HAPPEN..THAT'S PRETTY SICK

Answer 4

Tell the police and if you are brave enough, confront him. If he gets aggressive then definitely tell the police right away. It might also be a good idea to tell her mother about it if she is around.

Answer 5

Get off of the computer and investigate!!!!!
Take her to a doc, or the ER and they will help you to determine if she has been abused. What ever you do don't ignore it, if he father didn't really do anything he will not object to the investigation.

Answer 6

i would call child protective services....you could ask him but you know what he will say.....you need to think about the child before anything, she is the victim and children usually dont make stuff like that up. get help asap

Answer 7

the best thing about childhood is innocence. because out of that comes genuine honesty. ask her daddy what he pinched.

Answer 8

well first of all you need to talk to the childs mother and take her to the doctor to make shur that she is safe.and if nessary call child protective survises.that only if the mother dont lissen

Answer 9

A STRANGE GRANDMOTHER IF IT WAS MY GRANDDAUGHTER I would not be on here asking advice i would have her to repeat it to the law in forcement its not cute and sure as hell not a game

Answer 10

Check into it ASAP. Kids often say things that aren't true, but you won't know unless you check into it.