My husband felt unhappy that I do not agree to adopt children and made him cheat on me. I do not 100% agree for his excuse and that I do not know if I should go along and agree with the adoption. I do not look forward to bring up kids again since I have already raised 4 adults
2006-06-29 12:07:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So was he trying to knock up this other lady? Its a pretty lame excuse to me. If you already have 4 kids, its your right to say no more. If he wants to have more and your not into it, thenhe has the right to leave and find someone that wants the same thing. But he should tell you this in an adult manner and before sleeping with someone else.
2006-06-29 12:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by Fee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing, you did NOT make him cheat on you by not agreeing to adopt.
If one of you doesn't want to adopt, DON'T adopt. Also, don't think adopting a kid will make him stop cheating on you. You need to get some counseling and work out this cheating issue before you do anything else.
2006-06-29 19:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sleepy Dad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that there is no reason for you to raise another woman's child and have it return to the real natural mother when that child grows up.
adoption is a huge industry. it costs a lot to adopt because agencies make a LOT of profit by adoption. if you raised 4 children then it's time to look forward to grandchildren.
i would NEVER recommend infant adoption -- no way. the bond between mother and child is already there and you can't break it and an adoptee friend of mine is getting re-adopted by her natural parents - she has an article on this site here: http://adoptingback.com/ -- she says that they are her real parents and will always be despite a 25 yr separation. another adoptee friend of mine, age 38, is getting her adoption annulled.
2006-06-29 19:12:30 · answer #3 · answered by realmomof4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband is full of it. He's trying to make excuses for his behavior. If you already have kids and don't want anymore then that is enough. Don't adopt more...especially if you don't want any. Why would you do that to children? Tell him to get over it or get out. Especially if he is going to continue to try to guilt you into doing something you don't want to do by screwing around.
2006-06-29 19:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by dancing_in_the_hail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you do not have to agree about adopting and he is just trying to blame you for his cheating and it is 100% his doing not because you do not want to adopt a child. Maybe he got the person pregent and wants you to adopt the baby as he knows he scewed up big time
2006-06-29 19:29:58 · answer #5 · answered by Darlene M. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you're going to agree to adoption to keep him faithful!?
Why would you raise a child with a man that has cheated on you!?
2006-06-29 19:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You not wanting more kids "made" him cheat on you? He's lying. He wanted to cheat, and that's just his excuse.
No, you don't have to agree to adopt. If you've raised four kids, you've done your part.
Best wishes and God bless.
2006-06-29 19:10:06 · answer #7 · answered by bobhayes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know there is no reason at all for anybody to cheat on you.And if you feel like you don't want anymore kids then donot adopt.Cause children that are adopted need to parents that want them not just one.I know this cause I was adopted
2006-06-29 19:12:36 · answer #8 · answered by janice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say no i do not agree u have fours kids of your own that u need to take care of , and i know being a mother of kids is not a easy job to do , i have two of my own ages 9 to 2 and they keep me going all the time
2006-06-29 19:11:53 · answer #9 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "made" him cheat on you?!? Horsehockey! If he's not enough of an adult to admit that no one made him be a slimeball but himself, he's certainly not enough of an adult to raise adopted children.
2006-06-29 19:11:47 · answer #10 · answered by nickdmd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋