Whether you have or not, have you ever thought of having an affair? If you did, why? and if you did not, why not?
2006-06-29 11:56:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, because something was missing at home, guilt is the number on drawback. Wish I could go back and undo it, but too late now....and then you can't seem to stop, either.
2006-06-29 17:43:19 · answer #1 · answered by Simplepleasure 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Regardless of whether or not adultery is wrong, it happens. Fornication is wrong, yet people commit this sin every minute of the day. It's called passion & getting caught up in the moment. My answer... yes. I was going through a VERY rough patch in my marriage and my husband kept getting in trouble for stupid things with the law (like driving w/o a license). While he was in jail, I met a guy I thought was a complete gentleman who realized I was having a very difficult time making ends meet since I was now down to one salary with the living expenses that could only be paid for with two. After a month of just being friends and him helping out with bills and so forth, we were talking about a letter I received from my husband (which was nasty to say the least). I nearly had a nervous breakdown crying on his shoulder (think "When Harry Met Sally" when Sally found out her ex was marrying someone else), and one thing led to another. It's a moment I'm not proud of, but I am a very honest person and told my husband of my downfall as soon as he was released. We had a very mature conversation about it & he understood that women are typically emotional creatures, who easily crave affection and tenderness & can easily be driven to the closet source to receive such. Adultery or not, sin or not... woman are human and make mistakes, too. Otherwise, Ingrid Bergman should have been burned alive in "Casablanca" and Bogart shot in front of a squad.
2006-06-29 19:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by fragglerockqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had an affair out side of my marriage. I was looking for some love, respect, tenderness, just being treated like a woman instead of a piece of meat. I was abused. The man I met when I had the affair was wonderful but it still wasn't what I was looking for as he was also a bit abusive.
Dawne
2006-06-29 23:01:32 · answer #3 · answered by ray w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found the other answers a little one sided in favour of the sanctity of marriage. Come on now, we live in a world of divorce. I took and do take my marriage vows very seriously which is why I would never disrespect my husband by cheating on him. I think you should try to resolve the issues in the marriage 1st, failing that then separate before you hook up with someone else.
You must have loved your husband at one point I think he deserves better than lies and deceit.
2006-06-29 19:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by KRISTY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never did i think the thought of havin an affair would come into my mind , but after 18 yrs of married life, it did. now i realise that i want more in life , than being stuck in a contract
2006-06-29 19:19:48 · answer #5 · answered by heartbroken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think my answer is I don't.....
Why?? Because I will think that what if my husband having an affair... What will I do... What will I thinking right now.... So I don't like people cheating with his/her lover... I will never think about it... Or I will never do that to my husband... If I want to having an affair... I will tell my husband to give me some space... or I will just tell my husband that "I am having an affair with other man right now... So what you want me to do??"
2006-06-29 19:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by SnoopyGal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never thought of having or wanting an affair... i am lucky to have a great man in my life who respects me, and loves me just as much as i love him, and maybe even more. there is nothing at all that i need of feel that i dont have.
plus, i think we are both grown up enough to know what we want in life... and if somethings is missing in the relationship, we have good communication skills so that we can talk about it.
2006-06-29 19:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by LiLiTh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you seriously consider having an affair, you should not be married.
2006-06-29 19:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Because I married him for better or worse.That's the problem with marriages today no one takes them seriously.The first sign of she/he doesn't give me attention, they seek it else where.The energy that's put into a affair could be put into their spouse.Communication,I don't have it yet but I'm still working on it b/c I want him and no one else.When you truly love someone your not going to cheat.
2006-06-29 19:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely yes! and why? Because I AM married. Marriage is the most boring adventure on the face of the earth!
2006-06-29 19:02:41 · answer #10 · answered by codiane99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! I take my marriage vows serious. I also had a cheating ex-husband. Besides the moral issues involved, think of the families, the diseases, etc. But my main reason is that I value my vows and God's word.
2006-06-29 19:02:01 · answer #11 · answered by AMY L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋