i really want to do this, but i dont think i could handle all the stairs and glares, any help in getting up the courage to take the "big step" to the out doors would be great
2006-06-29 11:48:32 · 29 answers · asked by mitchelsph 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Remember the only person that matters is YOU. So you get funny looks and stares, its not the end of the world. Just make sure your safe. You may not be gay, most crossdressers are not. But to be "safe" you may want to go to a gay club to cross dress until you get stronger in your convictions. Good luck!!! Or perhaps there are (and yes there are!!) other men in your area that feel the same way. Its just a matter of finding a way to connect with them.
2006-06-29 11:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be dreadfully and fearfully honest an awful lot of T* people are not really passable. But does it matter?
There is the problem of being exposed to derision and losing your status among people you know, so perhaps it would be best to try this experiment when you're on holiday in a strange place.
On the other hand by going out crossdressed you are heightening awareness of the fact the people like you and me exist. It's something of a political act. If T*s always hide away we'll never be accepted as a valid form of gender expression.
So do it slowly, away from home, and be as passable as you can.
Good luck.
2006-06-29 13:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are shy or get your feelings hurt easily then no don't do it. If you got the nerve to try it one day, I would do it as a Halloween costume or go to a gay area of town (if there is one). I live in LA so I would go to West Hollywood. There a lot of crossdressers out there who are not passable and they still do it.
2006-07-04 22:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do a yahoo search for Tri-S; Society for the Second Self. It is a TG support group. They have events and outings which you and other T-girls can attend in a safe and supportive environment.
I reccomend you go that route before you venture out alone. If there is not a Tri-S chapter in your area I think they have a 1-800 number and can give you contact information for another TG group near you.
Good luck
2006-06-29 14:00:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do, you WILL get stares, and people may even insult you.
You know what, though? Those people don't matter. The only thing that matters is who you are, and what makes you happy. If anyone says anything to you, all you have to do is smile and say, "Yes, I am a man in woman's clothing, and I am also happy. Have a great day." and move on.
Good luck, dear. :)
2006-06-29 11:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody should tell you what to wear or how to look. That's something that's up to you. However society can just be cruel. You need to do what makes you happy. I wear stuff that I know may look terrible to some people. But it makes me comfortable and makes me who I am. I would steer clear of the ladies' room though, that could cause a fight.
2006-06-29 11:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by girl_interupted83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are beautiful for who you are......all of you! Every aspect....F**k what other people may or may not think as long as you are comfortable with yourself!
Plus when do you really think you will ever see the people you pass by on the streets,again....
And the more work you do with your style the better you'll get at it....
You can always ask girlfriends for help when making yourself presentable as well.
2006-07-04 22:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I simply would Not begin where you live . Pick a part of the community that has the lifestyleand go there....mett up or meet others who feel of the same ilk as you do.....and it is quite generally what is called a subterannean crowd......just normal people with a preference for dress.My recommendation is of course.....I simply would Not begin where you live. Pick a part of the community that has the lifestyle. Go easy on yourself....
2006-06-30 13:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are that concerned about what other people think, then you have no business doing it because you will just end up getting hurt! But, you have to think about your happieness! Think about how it makes you feel, when you dress up as a women, take that feeling outside with you, and go with it! Don't worry about other people, they will get over it!
2006-06-29 11:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by munkypoo1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg, i saw a crossdresser the other day in a parking lot and it was an extremely old man tht was walking incredibly slow and carrying a purse and wearing a dress and makeup- it was sooo HILLARIOUS- but you should do it: u only have one chance to live and a million chances to enjoy life so go for ir! who gives a damn what they think- you are just having fun.. *** one, party a little! enjoy life/!!!!!!!!
2006-06-29 11:54:47 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋