If you and your brothers ex-girlfriend (from childhood) were still cool with each other, would you stop talking to her to respect his recent fiance (which is like the sister you never had)?
2006-06-29 11:44:53 · 23 answers · asked by mony 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No
2006-06-29 11:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by September 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well if it's from childhood I think that would be kind of silly but I am in a situation right now where my husbands family and his ex still remain very close. It does make me feel like I am being disrespectful beacause I am their family now. So yes you need to respect your sister-in-law's wishes beacause it will only brong problems between you and her and your brother. Tell his ex- girl nicely that you will talk to her evry blue moon but your family comes first. Good luck!
2006-06-29 18:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by lifeislove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't...and I think your future sister in law is being rather petty. Out of respect, I wouldn't invite the ex to family functions or to the house when you know the fiance will be there, but other-wise, neither of them are your blood, so no need to cut ties.
What does your brother think about it anyways?
2006-06-29 18:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by maat13101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No cause why should u give up your friendship for someone else. I mean honestly if she is a real woman then she will understand. I wouldnt reccomend hanging with them both at the same time cause that could bring a lot of drama or talking to them about each other but i dont see why you cannot be friends with both i dont think it is a lack of respect at all cause only you can choose who your friends are dont let someone else make that decision for you or influence that decision just cause they are with your brother now cause that aint fair to you at all true friends wouldnt make you choose.
2006-06-29 18:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by psycholilblondegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's like the sister you never had, then she should understand that you are hanging out with her because she's a friend, Not an ex-girlFRIEND. Tell your sister-in-law and hopefully she understands, if not then I guess she has to get use to it anyways if she wants to be part of the family.
2006-06-29 20:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by helana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation really. From what you wrote I understand it as they were bf/gf a long time ago, when they were kids, and if that is the case I find it awfully insecure of the fiancee to be threatened by her. There is no reason you can't be close to both girls, assuming they are both mature enough to not put you in the middle of some sort of feud. I've always made my opinions of other people myself, never by what others may think. I have a lot of friends that my close friends can't stand, if you are confident in yourself than you should be confident enough to like who you want to like!
2006-06-29 18:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by KRISTY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is it written that your friends have to like each other?? If they both like and respect you, they should understand that you want to be friends with both of them and as long as you don't try to get them to do anything together, assuming they don't want to be, then they shouldn't have a problem with it. You say it's out of respect for the fiance, what about their respect for you????
2006-06-29 18:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by motherclucker41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is always first, and your new sister in law is family. Would you like to lose the sister you never had? Stay friends with the ex, but she's not part of your family any more.
2006-06-29 18:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! She's your friend. She's your sister. I would die if I had to give up my best friend.
Just don't flaunt her. Have seperate relationship. One with your new sister in law, and one with your friend. That's alot to ask someone.
Your brother didn't mind all this time when he wasn't engaged, so, why now?
This is a tough one. Good luck. sorry I didn't have a better answer.
2006-06-29 18:53:46 · answer #9 · answered by corina381 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no- your friendship with the ex started long b4 the new relationship with the fiance.
if your brother didint want you to talk to his ex all these years, then fine id say its reasonable to respect his wishes. BUT since he didnt, and you two are freinds, its ridiculous to think that you should end a great freindship on behalf of his new woman. ( besides, theres no guaruntee they will even make it for decades to come, so i wouldnt end your frinedship with the ex.)
2006-06-29 18:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by Charmed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No probably not, unless the ex trys to hang out with them or something. His fiance should just consider her one of YOUR friends.
2006-06-29 18:49:18 · answer #11 · answered by DeltaQueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋