What do you do if you still think about your ex, and you are married?

Answer 1

I also would like to know this answer :(

Answer 2

I think it really depends how much you think of him. Do you feel sad? Do you hate your spouse? People are going to tell you to go with your heart. But I believe its not that simple. If he doesn't feel the same then you are in for a big dissapointment. Find out why you are not satisfy in your marriage. What is the reason you still think your ex is worth a divorce. Maybe you just need another person and not your ex. People usually break up for a good reason. Time heals pain, but it also makes you have amnesia. If you go back and visit him you will understand why he is your ex. I have the same problem and I'm seriously thinking about buying an airplane ticket to find closure.

Answer 3

OOOOOooooo, that's a hard question. I tend to think about my ex when I'm upset with the new one. It's a bad bad habit. Gotta make a list. Kinda a pros and cons of the two. It's really not fair to your husband. Focus on the good things. And if you can't do that, maybe you made a mistake getting married?
I know I would never go back to my ex, and I know that I would be making a big mistake if I even think I could have a relationship with my ex again. Your just setting yourself up for ending up alone. So, try to let him go. Remember and remind yourself over and over again, why is he your ex?!

Answer 4

That depends. It's normal to think of ex's on occasion, they were a part of your life and they don't have to be forgotten just because you are married. But if you find yourself thinking of an ex obsessively, you may need to asses the situation. Are you happy in your marriage? Do you seriously regret losing your ex? Could you see yourself leaving your spouse for this person? You have to decide if you want to stay married or not. You could probably benefit from counseling and possibly marriage counseling. If it is not on this level, don't worry. If it is, it's time to make some choices.

Answer 5

You still going to think about him no matter what. After all the yaers or months you have with him. Then what you both done together and the love that ya'll had. But why is he your ex now ? whatever broke you and him up, could happen again.
Then again your in a marriage, and have a husband to consider about. If your marriage ain't working, give it a chance before sending it to the curb.

Answer 6

They too are a part of your life. It's hypocritical to say that the moment you say I DO, you forget everything about your ex. That's not true. Maybe you are unhappy now, so you think of the happy times with your ex???

Anyway it is important to be conscious of the fact that you are now married to somebody else, and your ex is now just a pleasant memory.

Answer 7

EVERYONE thinks about past relationships. But whatever you do, don't bring up an ex to your husband, I highly doubt he will appreciate it. Just talk to freinds about it. Stuff happens in relationships, its ok to think about those things every so often. But if your thinking, "i wish i was with him still." Or anything around those lines, then you shouldn't be married.

Answer 8

I think it's a very common thing. Just as long as you're not seriously lusting after your ex, it's fine. Of course you're going to still think of your ex because you have history with them and it's impossible to forget history.

Answer 9

1)You don't tell current spouse about it.

2)You see a therapist to work out the issues you are having letting go.

3)You do not make any effort to contact your ex.

Answer 10

well if u are thinking about your ex , that means you still have feelings for him or her , im not saying your still inlove , but maybe u still care for them . if u have a great past with one another its hard to let that go away like nothing ever happended .so all i can say is who are you really inlove with your ex or your spouse ?

Answer 11

Thats a tough one because Im in the same situation. I just keep hoping for a mircle that i will get back together with him someday.