Do men feel the same as women about being lonely in a marriage?

Question

You know, in a marriage, but still your lonely as hell........

Answer 1

Yes.....but moreso sometimes.....the reasons for that loneliness though are not just the mans fault but the wifes also.Lack of communication wherever you are in the household is a must.Even if it is negative communication(which happens from time to time) leaves an open door for positive talk.
Another form of communication is touch.Reenforcement of this type includes kissing(cheek or lips)and holding hands(even if in the bathroom) is necessary.
A man or women not receiving any form of this will feel rejected and leave the door open for things that are worse.....straying to find it from another.Communicating is just one thing but effective communicating is best.

Answer 2

Usually it IS the woman who feels neglected because she's used to a certain amount of connection with other women, and the man isn't meeting that standard.

Men usually are okay just "doing things" with other men and don't need to feel as strong a personal or emotional connection.

So he thinks he's meeting his obligations, doing his job, but he's not emotionally available to his wife; and she feels abandoned and not even real sometimes...

That pattern does happen in my marriage sometimes.

On a different level, what's funny is that out of the two of us, I'm more the "wanting a soul mate" type and she's more into having a "work mate." Go figure. (One of my personal needs is intimacy, in the sense of knowing her and needing to be known... and the amount of time spent isn't as crucial as the depth of the relationship. Whereas she would rather have the time and doesn't care as much about the depth.)

Anyway, yes, men can feel alone. Most men, though, I think end up feeling not respected or are afraid their wives don't think they are competent -- and that wounds them more than necessarily just being alone. They usually derive more identity from their work than from their relationships.

Answer 3

I don't think so. I've been married for about a month and I'm already feeling lonely. My husband is not attentive toward me at all, we argue and it just feels empty. He seems to think that everything's fine.
I read once while I was engaged that it's better to be alone than to want to be alone. Even though I live with him, eat meals with him and sleep with him at night, I feel alone.

Answer 4

Basically, men don't feel the same about anything....at least not feel the same way a woman does. Men and women are different, and that makes their feelings different too. so you should not compare them, it's like apples and trucks.

Answer 5

Yes. It's a mutual thing. There are some men that have those feelings of abandonment.

I'm thankful I'm not one of them.

Answer 6

yes, at times everyone feels the need to get out and rethink things, i actually believe that it is healthy to do this! it falls into the catagory of "your married but not sure if your still in love" type of question...

Answer 7

it depends if u have an open relationship and must be seeing eye to eye on every issue,sex included

Answer 8

Of course.

Answer 9

obviously not, cause the man would be having occasional sex with his secretary!!

Answer 10

very much so