MY BF might be seeing a married woman should i tell her husband?

Question

I found a phone number of another girl in my BF wallet. I called that number and the woman is married. My Bf & this women work together. I want to tell her husband that I found his wifes phone number in my Boyfriends wallet. But how do I tell her husband this without it getting back to my Boyfriend that it was me that was the one who told! please girls & guys can you think of any ideas, I dont want my BF to find out it was me- who could i pretend i am & what do i say to her husband when he ask who i am.

im scared my Bf if he finds out it was me will physically hurt me-he is violent & if this man goes down to his work it will come back to me. but i dont hink this is right 4 me or 4 her husband we are the ones getting hurt here

Note:they work in a factory-why would he need her number

Answer 1

they work together, so he probably has the number in case he needs something. grow up

Answer 2

Man that's a rough spot. First off, as you probably already know, staying with your husband just because you have kids is not a reason, neither is financial support. Your 2 daughters know something is not right with mommy and daddy so you are not doing them any favors by staying with eachother. Divorce him. My sister didn't think she could do it either. She was a waitress and her ex's resturant before she married him, going to college part time, then got pregnant and then got married. She finally divorced him when my niece was about 3. She ofcourse had the worst lawyer possible because she had no income and really didn't get anything out of him, but she went on back to school, got some grants and now she and my other sister run their own spa together and do really well. My point is, you can do, stop telling yourself you can't. As for the baby, you both need to make a choice. Either you are going to be together and raise the child, your going to be apart and do it together, you are going to do it on your own, you are going for adoption or you are going to have an abortion. You should make this choice as soon as possible if you can. I know it is hard. Yes if you have the baby you will have judgemental people coming at you left and right, but you will just have to be strong enough to get past their hateful eyes. People are going to judge you regardless of what you decide and it is up to you to make the best out of this sticky situation. I hope all the best for you girl, you need it.

Answer 3

I think Mannurse (above) has given you the best advice, as far as it goes, but he missed out the question of violence,

I cannot stress to you enough that you must not stay with a violent partner. A man who frightens and hits women is the lowest of the low. His violence will only get worse with years and you will lose all confidence and self respect. You deserve better of life. Leave him while you are still young and look for a boyfriend in better circles.What about where you work, or at evening classes? I am sure one day you will find some one who will love you and respect you as a person. The world is full of them. Best luck

Answer 4

What does turning him get you...a little satisfaction...a lost BF...involved in a mess! It's the wrong that's happened to you that you need to resolve. Life is too short to be made second. If you ask ur BF about the number are you ready and able to handle to fallout ? If you involve more and tell the husband your still the doormat because you know he's made you second...could there be others? Are you okay with being second? Your first concern should be to yourself...sounds selfish and sometimes you have to be.

Answer 5

Hello. Listen intently. Read all of this. I am a marital, couples, sexual counselor with twenty years of experience. In those years I have learned a thing or two.

You must deal with the person YOU are INVOLVED with. You are not in a relationship with that woman.

You must ask him if he is having an affair. there are ways to ask it, without causing a defensiveness. First, I need to know if you were LOOKING through his wallet. If you were why? did you already suspect something.???

You must deal with him. If he is getting other womens numbers and she gets out of the picture, would'nt he just find another. I have found that in these times that we are living in, women are more aggressive than men................deal with HIM first.....then deal with the follow up

Answer 6

Time to leave the boyfriend and let the husband find out his own way that his wife is possibly seeing someone else.

Any relationship that has one person frightened of the other is NEVER a good relationship to be in.

Answer 7

i don't think that finding a co-workers phone number automatically means there is something going on. first i'd find out for sure if there is, something more than a hunch if you plan to turn this womans life upside down over it. second...why is he your boyfriend if he is a violent cheater? third..find out where he works and leave an anonymous message in his voice mail. but what you should really do is find yourself a new boyfriend and quit worrying about what or who this loser is doing.

Answer 8

Girl call the women's husband and tell him you are a co-worker where his wife works and you know she messing around with a certain man and add that you already called the other mans wife and told her. But you better make sure you are 120% sure they are messing around before you go messing with peoples lives.

Answer 9

you state you are scared of him let the husband find out meet him and let him know about his wife your boyfriend as well as his wife might be friends . but the catch here is married womn dont give out there numbers to singlemen . for no reason . let the husband know abou this and he will find out the truth . my opion?

Answer 10

I definitely wouldn't tell anyone....nothing good can come from it....you'll have to confront your BF....and whatever his answer is...you should either accept him as he is or move on with your life.....I know this is a tough answer, but it is the only way.