i ve split up with my husband of 7 years, have daughter, he cheated on me, stole my money, now he is fighting me for custody of my daughter with atrocious allegations, but i still cant forget him or the good times we had together and i cry at night and dont know what to do, i dont think i will take him back but it hurts so much>
2006-06-29 11:18:54 · 21 answers · asked by fawzia h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's normal to have mixed feelings... after all, you were together for a reason so it wasn't all bad. It's okay to remember those times, but don't let it interfere with what he's trying to do to you now. Good luck.
2006-06-29 11:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing right now except i was only with my husband for 5 years. We have a daughter together also and he's threatening me too about the custody thing. I also think about all the good times, and believe me, I know how bad it hurts. It'll take time to move on but just remember, it's for the best. Not only did he do all those horrible things, but he could be a bad influence on your daughter if you keep him around. I've found it's ok to remember the good stuff. Just hold your head up and remember..someday you will be happy with someone who will treat you sooo much better! That's what i'm doing!
2006-06-29 18:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by ♫Joshua's~♥~Girl♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that sounds painful. Sorry you had to go through all that. You can't just stop loving someone, in most cases no matter what they have done. He sounds like something happened to him to make him change. You can keep memories in a special place in your heart and smile when you think of them. If he was not willing to do his part and be your husband and turn completely opposite you have no control over how he lives but you do have the control over what you and your daughter do. You can't let someone back into your life that has also given you that much grief and when they still haven't learned and continue to want to hurt you. It will hurt for a while but it will get better. Good luck.
2006-06-29 18:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to heal. That's the first step to happiness. With all the bad stuff he's doing, I would imagine hate would take over love but I guess it hasn't worked. What you need to realize is that those good times are now gone and won't ever be the same. It's ok to remember them as what they were "good times" and nothing else. Remember that you'll experience even more good times once you heal and with someone who's better for you anyway. Heal first.
2006-06-29 18:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by Private Account 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go....I know it's hard (I've been done the same way) but you have to pull yourself together fro your daughter's sake.I'm sure there were good times..if not you wouldn't have stayed married for 7 years...The fact is he was unfaithful..You could never trust him again if you got back together..I went back to my ex after he had an affair..I could not trust him..which caused even more heartache...So do yourself a favor and move on..I'm talking from experience...You will find love again..
2006-06-29 18:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will hurt for a little while, but it will get better. You two may have had some good times together, but what about all of the bad times? You deserve better than that. Make sure to have hope and faith in the future, and you will find it will get easier.
2006-06-29 18:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by shelgirl912003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wasted seven years of your life. Why are you going to let him waste any more time. Get your priorities straight. Take care of yourself and your daughter. Get a hobby, go work out, follow your passions. The most important person is you, now. Time will allow you to forget him- ultimately you want to reach indifference. Please stop pitying yourself- what kind of example are you setting for your kid. If you need to talk to someone- get help and just vent.
2006-06-29 18:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by gqenoel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You planned on being with him forever and it is hard to give that up. We always hope just maybe we can get things back to the way they were in the beginning. This is just part of the normal healing process. It takes time.
2006-06-29 18:35:29 · answer #8 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you appear to have a big heart! Time will heal you and you will meet Mr Right someday, soon I bet. For the time being know that you did the correct thing and feel proud that you are a great wife and mom!
2006-06-29 18:22:10 · answer #9 · answered by likeskansas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of all the bad times u had w/ him and everything he put u and ure daughter through.
2006-06-29 18:24:02 · answer #10 · answered by Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋