Why the hell does my life suck so much?

Question

I have one friend that can't even make plans and thats the only friend i have and i don't even know if we are really good friends in her eyes.

I lost the only man i have ever loved.

Im so depressed it is scary

AntiDepressants dont work!!!!!!!!!!!

BTW I do cut

Answer 1

Your life can be little else when you keep telling yourself that your life sucks so much and that you lost the only man you ever loved. You are 100% in control of your own life, honey. What you think about, what you repeat over and over in your head or to other people is what you will get in your life. You are the only one who can make you happy.

Use your mind to think about what you do want - visualize it, plan it, make it happen. Cutting yourself sure won't help you do anything but remember how depressed you are. Take a walk and clear your head and make a plan.

You are young - there are many friends yet to be made, many men yet to love. You are only a victim when you allow yourself to be. If you feel you can do nothing else, just stay in bed and in your mind, imagine yourself happy. See yourself in your mind laughing and smiling. Do it as often as you can and in 3 days you will feel better - and you deserve to feel better. You are here for a reason - dust yourself off and move on.

Peace!

Answer 2

Have an adventure with yourself, and you may find that you are your own best friend. Remember that you have to like you, before you project any positive energy that may attract other people. I wouldn't want to spend time with someone who is consistently bringing me down. And I would venture to guess that you are quite young, and I'm not suprized you have only loved one man. There will be more. Don't rely on drugs of any kind to fix your problem. Do something to make the world a better place, and your world will take on a whole new feeling.
Change your I.D. for a start. No none is looking to bleed you dry, and you are perpetuating that attitude. You can contact me, I'll be happy to fill you in on my life!

Answer 3

Sometimes life just sucks. My theory is, if there aren't crappy times you have nothing to use as a comparison for the good times.

I've been in a similar position. My "friends" were all high maintenance and b****y. I felt like I was only there when they needed or wanted something out of me.

The first and only man I ever loved decided he wanted to keep me around..and have someone else too.

I figured my options were...
a. medication - but it wasn't going to change the "friends" or the "man".
b. shoot myself - still wasn't going to change the "friends" or the "man".
c. kick them all to the curb, decide I deserved better, and become my own best friend.

I picked (c), and am glad I did. I now have a small, but really great group of friends, including a few men. I would like to "fall in love", but it's not something I'm going to fret over. I've made me my best friend...and I have to say, I'm delightfully reliable.

There's nothing wrong with being unhappy. What's wrong is not making it better. Sometimes, it'll get worse before it starts to improve. Then you just have to start laughing at it.

I'm one of those people that if you handed me the winning Power Ball ticket...the ink would smear and it would be voided. I've just learned that sometimes I have to laugh at it...my face gets all red and blotchy if I cry..so laughing works better.

Answer 4

You need to have patience and know that nothing lasts forever. Things will begin to clear up and your life will improve. I've been where you are. I spent many years as a cutter and now, am left with the scars. I see those scars daily and am unable to even remember any of the situations that put them there. You will reach that point too. Don't give up. Stay strong and you can overcome anything. Life isn't always perfect and there will always be things that get us down. Just remember, only you have the ability to pull yourself back up again.

Answer 5

I know how you feel about friends, all of mine are back in CA - I'm too picky to find anyone "good enough" out here. My time is occupied by my 3 kids/work/sports and a b/f. (after a crappy divorce 2 yrs ago - 15 yrs of marriage - 15 yrs too many!). Unfortunately, the answer is attitude is everything. When you surround yourself in depressing thoughts, no good ones can get thru, therefore you can't break out of your rut. There ARE more men. Good luck. *hug*

Answer 6

Knock the cutting crap off for one. Change your life style. Go shopping etc. Im sure youve got more than one friend that you could go out with and meet others. Believe me Its nice to be alone sometimes. You'll meet the right person someday. Try not to hurry. Go talk to a counceler if that will help. Volenteer at a homeless shelter. You'll realize you have alot to be thankful for.

Answer 7

Take a risk. Do something to inspire others. Get out in the world and make some friends, true, honest friends who will let you know how awesome you are. As for the guy..all you can do is move on and try not to think about him too much.

Answer 8

Well you are basing your entire lifes happiness on two people???

Is that right??? So I guess with out those two people you might as well go work for the sewer department...

Yep your right everything just sucks, Mom, DAD, Sis, Bro, Cousins, Aunts, Uncles, the Grands, they all mean absolutely nothing... I understand that. Because those to people who left you are way more important then all the people who are your family...

I am so sorry for you what are you ever going to do???

Answer 9

dont worry just take a deep breath and relax about 80% of the world get depressed at one time or another. but things will get better cause you will always have friends. ill be your friend just email me and we can talk

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Answer 10

Cheer up girl.I've been to the bottom of depression myself.I advise not to take the Anti depressants it's a waste of time.Get into self and move on.Don't forget to cheer up!!