ok my parents got divoreced last summer and i was okay with it at first.But now im going crazy because my brothers and i have to go back and forth.It doesnt seem to effect my brothers and but it bothers me.How can i tell my dad i dont wanna go to his house or see him all the time?Explain to him i wanna be with my mom and hang with my friends.
2006-06-29 11:06:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's a tough situation. I went through it too. Both your parents are afraid they're going to 'lose you' to the other and many times they literally compete for your affection. They shuffle you back and forth because they miss you. Some parents use their kids as a way of "getting' the other, and that's never good. It probably affects your brothers too, they're just not showing it. As a dad, I can tell you he'd probably appreciate it if you honestly told him how you felt. Be nice about it, tell him you still want to see him, but you need some space, some time for friends. Maybe as a compromise he'd let a friend come over with you. Talk to him, you might be surprised from what he says. He just needs to know everything's still ok with you and you'll always be his daughter, no matter what.
2006-06-29 12:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think the divorce (your parents separating) is the problem here. I think the problem is that you don't want to leave your friends and you're using the "I wanna be with my mom" excuse to accomplish this. It's kinda like when you move away and leave all your friends behind.
Anyway, look at it from a positive point of view. You can meet and have new friends where your Dad lives!
2006-06-29 18:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by Private Account 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter told me, "Dad, even tho I don't show it, I love you more than you know." My daughter is 18 now and really has her own life. She started when she was 16 and started not coming around me as much. I understood. I knew the day was coming soon. So, maybe your dad will understand.
Good luck sweets
2006-06-29 18:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to tell him. Its easier over the phone so you don't have to say it to his face. And who knows maybe he will be relieved (not trying to sound mean) but he probably has places to go and thing to do other than be with you. He probably enjoys it but maybe you all need a break from being together all the time
2006-06-29 18:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by DeAd DiScO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say .... I dont wanna go to your house all the time. I want be with my mom and hang with my friends.
2006-06-29 18:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jeremy O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dad I dont wanna go to your house so often? I really would rather with my friends ok. I love you!
2006-06-29 18:11:07 · answer #6 · answered by moved 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you just say, tell him you love him but the moving back and forth is to difficult on you emotional Be honest and just tell him how you feel. set a time to see him less enough or for short times. reassure him that your feeling for him have not changedm its just to stressful
be blessed
2006-06-29 18:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by zqx357 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you love him, but you would rather be at home with your mom and friends, so from now on your only coming every other time.
2006-06-29 18:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by captures_sunsets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. It might hurt his feelings, but if he loves you then he'll understand. Don't put your mom in the middle because he will blame it on her. Good luck and remember honesty is the best policy.
2006-06-29 18:09:48 · answer #9 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excellent question. You just have to say that you love him like nothing else, but that life is just too hard going between two houses. He should understand that although he loves to spend time with you, it is too hard for you.
2006-06-29 18:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋