Is A Two Top Relationship Possible?

Question

Both of us believe a certain part of our body was mean't to be ONEWAY if you know what I mean. That, in my book, just leaves oral, dry humping, and masterbation......I'm getting bored but luv my partner.....any suggestions?

Answer 1

Yes it can work. A relationship is so much more than sex. It's companionship, understanding, communications and much much more. However those three are areas you might work on.

First companionship. You need to find activities outside the bedroom to enjoy. They might help you realize what you have in him and what you don't you really aren't missing.

Understanding. Well you need to understand it's going to be work and you won't always get what you want. This means you have to compromise a bit. If you love him and he loves you. Then you both need to try and be the bottom for each other, be satisfied with what you have or open up the relationship (which I really think is a big mistake).

Last communications. It is fine to ask others for help and advice. It may help you see and decide what your situation is, what it means to you, what he means to you. However in the end you need to talk to him about your feelings and need as does he.

The fact you are out here asking for help means to me you care a great deal about him and this relationship. My personal thought and advice, get a lot of lube and try the other side. Let him know you're willing to try this if he is and stay together. It's worth it.

Answer 2

I am with you partly. I think anal sex is nasty and not worth the risk and nothing is going up the down ramp if you know what I mean. If this is a deal breaker for you you need to go ahead and find someone else because the relationship is not much of a relationship anyway.

Edit:
I am so very sorry Uncle frunk is right I am having a bad day online. That doesn't give me the right to be flippant. I hope you guys can work out your differences I know love is hard at times and it is extremely apparent you guys care a great deal for each other. A love like that is worth fighting for and I really do wish I had the answer for you. In any relationship communication is the key to all give and take. The answer is obvious and you know what that answer is. You either give up Anal sex and the pleasures this brings you or you give to each other what you most desire and each let your partner have anal sex with the other. I personally would not do that. But then I am g0y and we don't do that, but you guys do so from that perspective how hard will it be to give what the other needs to be fulfilled. Start with some toys until you get used to it and then give yourselves to each other. If this is the one for you and for the rest of your lives then make this the only person you do this for. Sacrifice is what a relationship is sometimes about. Love him like he loves you and all will work out as it should. I wish you guys well. I will pray for your relationship tonight. That you reach the dicision that you need to for each others sake. Show this community that Love is stronger than this.

And please feel free to email me.

Answer 3

You have three possibilities:

Let love see you through -- it has a power all its own and if it's true love, it can overcome problems. Love waxes and wains, but like Cher, it always comes back.

Get over your anal issues and give it a try. Be the "bigger man" so to speak and try it. What an act of love that would be, huh? It will also make you a better top. Worked for me. Before you know it, you could also discover that turnabout is foreplay.

Leave because you're bored. This is the least acceptable in my opinion. It would show that love is not enough for you.

Answer 4

do you mean that "a certain part of your body WAS meant to be ONE WAY?" if so, get over it. So, you don't mind sticking it in, you just have a mental hang up about yourself getting plugged. GET OVER IT. The joys of bottoming (i'm versatile) are endless. The prostrate is right there and can be massaged by fingers, dildo or you know. It sounds like you need to readjust your hangups slowly, by rethinking your objections to this act. What is your objection and why. Your able to do it to others, so why the shy act on yourself? Sounds contradictory. Does it hurt, then that's an excellent reason not too. Otherwise, its a hang up.

Answer 5

Anything is possible, but if you are bored you should be discussing it with your partner. In relationships if the sex is suffering, this goes for straight and gay, you need to discuss it with your partner, find out what your options are and what you are both comfortable in doing.

The body and mind changes and develops over years and some things you were uncomfortable with doing you become comfortable with trying...so discuss and be open to each other it sure beats being dishonest and cheating.

Answer 6

Well, if you are a top only why do you think ANY other Male should succumb to your needs. You gays WANT equal rights, but you don't RESPECT others equal rights.

If you two "LUV" each other, you'll both bend over and take it like a man. That's what a relation ship is about remember...give and take...not give & give or take and take.

Answer 7

That's a tough situation. If you really love him, you should give it a try. Maybe he'll be willing to compromise as well. Also, have you tried sex toys? They make some great ones for men these days and that could help spice things up.

Answer 8

Your beliefs about what you do are rather limiting, not very wise, and certainly deprive you of a great amount of pleasure. Call in a 3rd and have a ball. No big deal.

Answer 9

Try dating a women. I applaud you that you don't do a@l because it is wrong and not natural. While a woman does have somethig that you can slip intoand that is NATURAL and not wrong.

Give it a try, it is the way people were ment to be.

Answer 10

Thats Funny man.