Well im 16&my bf is 18 and were thinkin about kids wat do we do?

Answer 1

Wow, slow down your only 16, your too young. If he is 18 he is breaking the law, well at least in California he is? Girl your 18 yr. old bf doesn't want a baby. At 18 boys do not want kids they just want to f**** all the time. Girl I'm 20 and preg, and my man is 22. We are young but at least we have our own place, cars and money to take care of a child. How selfish can you be, just think how poor you guys will be, what about your child? Don't you want your kids to have the best. Well just know now they won't right now. Do you even have a job? Car? Money? Insurance? umm a House? Exactly think twice about this. Your still in high school or should be! Enjoy not paying bills and rent, trust me it's hard! Definately not easy! If you and your BF are still together in at least 4 yrs. Then try it? Your not even married? Girl my sister is 17 and she just started having fun, she is not thinking about any children. You should be thinking about college! I went to college. I know it happens to 16 yr. olds but I've never heard of 16-18 planning to have children. You need counceling. I really feel bad for you. And just no a baby doesn't trap a man. He can up and leave, you can't you'll be stuck forever. Babies are a beautiful blessing but only when your ready. Otherwise it can be a living hell you'll see in a year!

Answer 2

Don't. Wait till you are out of high school and can get a full time job. Children cost thousands of dollars to support... you can't get that kind of money when you are that young. Plus, what happens if you guys decide you dont' want to stay together. I fell in love when i was 16 but we ended the relationship when i was 19... I know i was in love with him, but that does not mean our relationship worked out. As you get older, you change and so will he. Putting a baby in the middle of that is not fair. Give yourself a chance to get a little older and go out and do all the fun things you can, that you can't do with a baby. Go overseas or take a vacation to the bahamas. You may never get the chance when you have kids. Hang in there... you'll be ready for kids in a few years, until then, enjoy having almost no responsiblity.

Answer 3

First you should realise that having a kid is not just something you just rush into. You need to allow yourself the time to really grow and get psychologically ready for what you are about to do, besides you need to get some education.Finish up on your schooling and get a job, a nice place of your own and then if you still like having a kid with your bf go ahead but i think it would be better if you got married when you are aa bit older

Answer 4

What you do is just keep on dreaming until you are one day in your twenties, finished with your own education, married for a few years, and on your feet and financially stable to where you could give a child the best you possibly can. By the best, I don't mean spoiled, just that you can be sure you will be able to raise them well enough and help them get a good college education. College is just about a must now, in twenty years it will absolutely be and be that much more expensive. You need to think about these things in depth before acting too fast.

Dreams are nice, but the realities of them can be really hard if you don't think them though and act too soon.

Answer 5

PLEASE WAIT until you are older AND married. Kids need the stability of parents who are REALLY committed to each other, and plan to be together forever. It is also very difficult in our society to earn a decent enough living to support a family if you don't have a college education. If you and your boyfreind really love each other (and your future children!), take some serious time to PLAN your future. Go to college, get good jobs, establish a good income, buy a house (in a good neighborhood, good school district), read a lot of good books on parenting, spend time with other children to "practice" (and to make sure you REALLY like babies/kids -- remember, you'll be stuck with yours for atleast 18 yrs.!) You owe it to your children (and to youself and your boyfriend), to make sure this is the right decision. Children are human beings (not playthings that you have just for the fun of it), and they deserve the BEST life you can give them!

Answer 6

omg - please don't - i left school at 16 and regret it so much wish i had stayed on so i could now have a better life for my little girl who i had 3 months before i turned 20 - i don't regret having her so young - but i do regret not being able to provide properly for her - i am stuck in a job that i hate its only a few more years of education then a few years to find yourself and decide what you want to do - i know it seems like ages but believe your parents when they say don't wish your life away coz when you get older the time passes a lot quicker and you wonder where all the time is going ( i am only 21 lol but that is the way it feels already )

Answer 7

your way to young to even be thinking about having kids right now believe me I know I was 18 when I got pregnant with my daughter and she is now 3 the best thing to do is to wait My daughter is the most precious thing in my life but I would have so much more to give her if I was out of high school had a job and had my life on the right path but it didnt happen like that. Just wait it will be so worth it if you do just enjoy your life.

Answer 8

You are too young if you have kids now your going to miss out on a lot go to school graduate and have fun in college and graduate those are going to be the best years of fun and then have kids you will have a lot more to offer them without having to struggle you kids will follow your same example after all that is what you want right?

Answer 9

Go visit someone who has kids and stay with her 24 solid hours up all hours of the night feedings clothing laundry meals cleaning DIAPERS DIAPERS DIAPERS poop poop I have 2 boys under 2 and I am 27 years old and I find it hard most days just to get a shower or a hot meal on the table...I spend 100.00 a month in diapers alone not to mention formula babyfood and medicines...Think long and hard about your early adulthood partying shopping and hanging out with friends...and boyfriends

Answer 10

wait, there is plenty of time for this. Get your education and get yourselves established. Believe me you think you know who you are now but you have so much growing up to do. I am 25 now and have been married since 18 and we have 2 kids. It can be done but it was hard, the only reason we have not divorced is because we have a good spiritual support and it has caused us to work on our marriage but believe me it is HARD to start that early.