A little history:
My husband and I have been trying for 3 years. We conceived, but miscarried at 3 months 2 1/2 years ago.
My husband's sperm has been tested and is fine.
I am healthy, was a college athlete, do not smoke and rarely drink. Ditto for my husband.
A dye test showed blockage in both fallopian tubes, but I have had the laproscopy for mild endometriosis I didn't even know I had. The surgery went fine and the doctor expected results by now.
Do you have advice for something else I might try? I would really appreciate any great pointers that helped someone out there get pregnant as well as any encouraging success stories anyone has to share. THANK YOU!!!
2006-06-29 10:36:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
It sounds like you've done all you can at this point and now you just kind of have to sit back and let the treatments take their course and work. While I don't have any magic advice, I CAN tell you you're not alone and I was a success story 8 yrs. ago (after 6 long years of trying). So hang in there and good luck!!!!
2006-06-30 00:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by Endo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Success takes the most impossible thing you can possibly do! RELAX and Stop thinking about it! LOL I know I know, easier said than done!
My husband and I started trying to get pregnant almost as soon as we got married, after 6 months with nothing I went in to talk to my OB/Gyn, she ran a few tests and decided I have PCOS, like you it would throw up big barrier, but should be able to get pregnant. I went two more years without results. Finally she put me on Clomid and another expensive drug. I was absolutely pulling my hair out by this time and literally cried the entire first day of my period every single month. I had a fertility monitor, used a fertility calculator and we went at it like rabbits!!! In my fourth month of Clomid my husband was going to be out of town for business until half way through my cycle so I didn't want to spend the money or waste a round of drugs since my OB was only giving me 6 rounds. I figured that month was going to be absolutely pointless. We only wound up having sex once. It was the first time in a year it was for fun not because we had to. Two weeks later I was going to a party and planned on drinking so I took my routine pregnancy test, at work no less, because i was so sure it was going to be negative.I almost forgot about it when I walked out. I picked it up to toss it in the trash and barely glanced at it. I had to get a second opinion when it came up positive. I was so shocked I couldn't even read the test. I'm not blessed with a beautiful 2 1/2 year old boy.
I know it sounds ridiculously impossible, but stop thinking and worrying about it. Make sex fun. Stop trying so hard. LOL Maybe give up all together (ha ha I know) but my mom had given up trying to get pregnant and was 6 months into adoption proceedings when she found out she was 4 months pregnant with me!
Don't let Amber (above me) discourage you. She sounds like she's had a negative experience with a doctor. I will say if you're not feeling a connection with your doctor and feeling like s/he is doing anything and everything for you, look for a new one! My doctor was a godsend, she never "compartmentalized" me and did admit when she was wrong. Keep your hope alive and have faith in yourself and modern medicine, not just your religious beliefs! Some people just aren't meant to have children, but your previous pregnancy should put some hope in your heart that it is possible for you to conceive! Though I am very sorry for your loss. Ive never been there so I can't even imagine what you went through.
Good Luck! Message me if you want! I know how hard it can be and it does take a little of the sting away when you can talk to someone in the same place you are or someone who's been there.
2006-07-13 12:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you're coming from with the Clomid and surgeries. I feel for you. Infertility treatment is always an individual journey. No two cases are alike, so I have to try and resist from generalizing.
It sounds like you're under a doctor's care and doing everything you're supposed to. There isn't much more you can do. I can't tell you to relax or any of those other ridiculous comments. You'll just have to believe that sometimes God has a plan we don't even know about.
Just a few words of wisdom from someone who has been through it all and still unable to conceive: Doctors don't know everything. They might think they do. They might even convince YOU they do. But they're "practicing" medicine...literally. Many times they can't even explain how someone gets pregnant after telling her she won't ever be able to conceive. They won't ever be able to explain to someone who's an excellent candidate for pregnancy why she isn't getting pregnant. Unfortunately, this is mother nature we're dealing with.
Doctors always compartmentalize everything and turn the whole beauty of pregnancy into a scientific experiment. You have to be psychologically and economically ready for this. It can often be a long haul.
You said your doctor expected results. So did mine. They always say that, because more than often, they always think they're right. They'll NEVER admit their theories were wrong. Even if they were.
I wish you well. God bless.
2006-07-13 08:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im ttc too, but haven't yet and its been 5 months. i don't have any fertility issues; i don't think so anyway. i am planning to try ovulex. its an all natural suplement. might want to do some research and talk with your doctor first. it is suppose to naturaly get your overies going and your uteris ready. some say it works others didn't like it. from the research i have read, there are no side effects. however some have said their periods stop all together. i don't know what to believe. Also sometimes it can take up to 6 mo. just be patient and hang in there. good luck and your not alone.
2006-07-12 20:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your fallopian tubes are not blocked anymore and the endo is fixed, its probably just a waiting game. I use the Fertility awareness method (www.tcoyf.com). I take my temp daily to pinpoint ovulation, check cervical fluids etc. Its all in the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. There is also message boards on this site that are very helpful, to hear from others who are going through this same thing...Good luck!
2006-06-29 22:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by armywife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you didn't mention it, you could try some natural ways of trying to become more 'fertile.' Have you ever heard of how acupuncture might improve fertility? And herbal supplements? You might want to check out Randine Lewis' website - she offers "fertility retreats" which seem to work for a lot of women. Her website is: www.thefertilesoul.com .
Aside from that, have you considered IVF? It's expensive, but if you're in dire need of conceiving a child it might be a 'last resort.'
2006-07-12 19:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by Christian B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been tested for PCOS? They can't find it with a Lap. They need to test your hormone levels through bloodwork and also do a type of ultrasound that I can't remember the name of. They go in through the vagina. One major sign of this is abnormal or no periods.
Otherwise, I'd say you'll have to wait for God.
2006-07-13 16:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by 81 Honda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAY BE ITS TIME TO JUST RELAX FORGET ABOUT HAVING BABIES FOR A WHILE AND I BET WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT BINGO YOU WILL BE PREGNANT GOOD LUCK.
2006-07-13 06:01:45 · answer #8 · answered by fonzie1956 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋